A few bottles of Rioja, down Zest on Thursday night!

It was goodbye to Katie's Father, who had been staying with her for a few days, from Britain.  It was a pleasure to meet him, I enjoyed our political conversations tremendously.  Not had many of those since arriving in Spain!

We went to The Belfry for a farewell dinner.  They have just started doing Wednesday carvery.  For 10.95€ you get three courses and a drink. Now that's what a call a bargain. To be honest, I wasn't too sure what to expect, especially when you are paying such a reasonable price.  I have to say I was suitably impressed.

This was the first time I had been to The Belfry; it was lovely inside and out.  The restaurant was full to bursting, which shows just how popular the venue is.  The service there was exceptional, there was no long wait for starters and deserts and the ambiance and atmosphere, perfect. The food was cooked perfectly, the choice was good and above all the meals were all piping hot and  vegetables not overcooked.  I have been to many carvery's in the past, where the food was so cold it was inedible. This time, at The Belfry, it was very different; who could ask for more, on a stormy, windy night, in Gran Alacant!  I will certainly be back!

I thoroughly enjoyed my evening at The Belfry and would highly recommend it, to my readers!

Reliving events, that brought us to spain.
you are truly gifted my friend!

There are those people, who will say, move on with your life and forget this episode.  What I have to say to you is this;  Part of the process, of moving forwards and rebuilding a life, involves analysing what went wrong before, otherwise the same things will happen again. This is all part of that process.

I have already spoken to a number of different people, before publishing transcripts.  I have done all I need to do, to hide the identity of those involved.  

In the second part of this document of messages and calls, Penny further gains my trust, offering empty words of love and respect, platitudes.  This is not my interpretation, it is that of the charity I used to help me overcome what happened.  

Once again, you may feel differently.  I am not outing anyone, just going through words, with a different outlook and perspective on what actually happened during my last year in Southampton.

I have been over these words again and again, and I am still unsure, whether or not Penny was genuine or a charlatan.  She comes across very well.  There was a time I regarded her as a friend, but in the words of the charity who helped me, she was a bully, never listened to what you said and told you what you wanted to hear; make up your own mind!

​You are truly gifted my friend!

So what exactly were these words about.  Genuine encouragement? A distraction from what was really going on at the time? Empty platitudes or a way of gaining her trust?  

Reliving events, that brought us to spain.
My Dead nan will pay a visit!

At the end of March, 2015, after  suffering at the hands of my sociopathic boss, I was signed off sick.  About a month later I received communication from a work colleague, I will call her Penny, another Manager like me, who also worked in our region. I was not in the habit of having work friends on facebook, so although she could message me, she could not add me. It was a professional decision, not to add people, who I worked alongside. 

This was a strange message, where Penny talked of being a medium and currently in contact with my dead Grandmother,  Now I am a firm believer in mediums, am a Palmist myself and have a keen interest in tarot, but something didn't quite ring true.  At the time I was recovering from a Bipolar relapse and I suppose was at a vulnerable point in my life. From the advice I have taken since, I was told I was more open to suggestion, at this stage.

Whilst working for the charity, that caused me so much pain, I was told to keep my distance from Penny, by my boss, but was never given a reason why.  I always kept away from her and avoided conversation. This 'psychic message', was a way for her to get to me, to have me invite her into my life, at a time, when I should have been getting well; this woman was trying to finally become my friend; it worked! Darrell told me to trust her;  I still had doubts, but followed his advice.

I am including a transcript of her opening messages to me and my reply. I was amazed by what she was saying, it was my Grandmother, every word of it!  I am writing about this, well and in fine fettle, and as I realised a long time ago, the information she gave me, were the words I had written online in a blog entry a little time before, I was just too ill to realise.

OR WAS IT?  WAS SHE ACTUALLY GENUINE?

As a 'believer', I still want to trust what she said was bona fide and she had my best interests at heart,  The counsel I was given, suggested she was a charlatan, probably sociopathic, like our boss and used her position, knowledge, Darrell's acceptance and perceived power to infiltrate my life further, cause maximum harm and get away with what she did.

There are  authentic psychics and mediums out there.  I have seen a few and know a couple.  This person used others vulnerability to push her way into our life; she even had an invitation to our Wedding.  Luckily, I saw her for who she was in the end.

I have altered the names in the transcript below, but everything else is unchanged.  I will be publishing the full transcripts of what was said between myself and her over the next few months, so people can see, how a sociopath and bully can muscle their way into a person's life, just to cause harm; as readers, you may also think differently, you may believe she was genuine! For the short period, she remained a friend, my life got worse.  As soon as I told her to go away for want of a better phrase, my life, once again was mine!
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​My Dead nan will pay a visit
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So this was the opening gambit from a charlatan or confidant? In all honesty I haven't made up my mind what or who she was.  I was recently told, that now is the time to get my thoughts down in my blog, about that period, before we came to Spain.  One can certainly look from a different perspective and see the truth behind the lies.  What happened to me was terrible in every sense, but at least I have words and can finally publish my thoughts at an altogether better time, where I can look back at those events, subjectively, without prejudice!

Over 5000€ was raised for Tasha Lynch at The Charity Variety Show, at The Pub in Masa Square.  What a fantastic achievement for the organisers, as well as all those who took part and contributed.  I have to say, I had a fantastic day in The Square.  I am including a short video from the day, produced by the Gran Alacant Advertiser, the publication I write for. The community pulled out all the stops here for Tasha, as they always do on these occasions.  It's why I love living in GA so much.  Well done everyone!

Just got off the phone to someone who works at the charity I used to. They got my number from 'Spanish Views'. Sadly they are suffering the same situation, I did, just over a year ago; caught me by surprise a bit.  I've given as much advice as I can. I really do hope that one day, very soon, this charity is brought to justice!

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