I'm never wrong, it's not my fault, you don't understand; you've heard these before, haven't you? Excuse after excuse, time and time again; he's always right!  It doesn't matter what you say or what proof you have, he is always, without reservation, completely and absolutely right.

There are many people who have this trait, as part of their makeup.  I can think of lots off the top of my head, but there is one person who encompasses 'Mr Excuses,' in every respect.  He was another one of those people, who wasn't who he seemed.

We met him in the most dubious of circumstances, someone who took complete advantage of  my partner and I. A liar, he was able to turn on the tears at the drop of a hat.   He was a character who always blamed someone else, even though you know the truth; he understood that all too well.  Transparent, completely obvious and see-through, he was a person with no backbone, sense of decency or honour!

Living in a house, with a number of different people can be hard, It is one of the reasons I refuse to do it today, both now or in the future.  Sometimes you feel you have to take part in socialising, when you would rather not. On other occasions you can be forced into doing something you don't want to do.  He looked down his nose at others and believed he was right. What he couldn't do indefinitely was blame others, for his failings, no matter how hard he tried to lie his way out of situations.  As a transparent, unambiguous, unmistakable and unsophisticated liar, his sins would surely find him out!

Being made to feel sorry for someone who in reality is nothing more, than just a good actor, was one of my failings.  Listening to the pouring out of a heart, from a person, who quite frankly was a proven liar, was my fault.  I suppose when you are vulnerable, you are taken for granted much more easily.  I believed him as much as my partner and others, because we had seen him slump and end up a shell of his former self.  We have all had rough times and bad memories to contend with, but if you truly believe others are responsible, you would not go straight back into the Lions Den!

You can not blame other people for everything that goes wrong in your life, when you do nothing to solve your own problems.  Friends supported you in the past, but not any more.  Why would we support someone who  took advantage of our kind nature and far worse? Incidences that I do not want to recall. Why would we ever go out of our way to help a failure, who has just put themselves right back into circumstances that helped to destroy them in the past?  We won't, never will again and will stand tall, saying 'I told you so,' and relish in that phrase!

No more excuses, no more whining, no more lies and justification.  You are the one responsible for your life, no one else can shoulder that responsibility. Accept all your failures, stop the blame game, and I am glad you are no longer in my life.  My life is far better off without you!

Mr Excuses.  Another one to be avoided!

Characters I have known!

Poor judgement, poor judge of character, easily influenced, too trusting.  The phrases I could use to describe me and my relationship with others. Under normal circumstances, it isn't as bigger problem as it could be, but when you are talking about, friendships and relationships with others of a dubious nature, you can see my predicament!

Let's talk about me, for a minute! When I meet someone, I do not prejudge,  I don't question who they are, the words spoken from their mouths or their overly nice attitude and reactions.  Point of fact I trust what they say and accept their words as true!

I never used to be like this.  I would always question people, if not to their face, then within myself.  I would never trust anyone without truly knowing them, but there was a period of time, all that changed, my guard lowered, my emotions played with, my protective instincts gone!  

Once again, any names used in this piece are fictitious!

Pompous, arrogant, full of his own self-importance, John, was all things to all men!   A user of people and substances from day one, with the pretence of class and breeding, that was used to trap people into his disgusting World of self-destruction, lies, insecurity and theft!  When you first meet John, he can be a charmer, tell you what you want to hear and pretend to be a close friend akin to family! John was one of the most destructive people I had ever had the misfortune to meet!  Sadly addled by medication, with guard dropped, you are easy prey for the likes of him!

I have always been proud of the fact that I tell the truth!  John was a born liar, someone who had spent his entire life lying his way out of situations, to protect what? He had no dignity left, he had no money, having been through every pay day loan company going.  People really can not stand the ground he walks on, and he becomes so obsessed by individuals, that they literally run for the hills screaming!

His biggest failure is 'self-delusion.'  Just because you talk with a plumb in your mouth, it does not make you better than other people. A private education does not buy you perfect attributes; in the case of John, nothing could be further from the truth.  His education only bought him false self belief; he had been a failure all his life.  The more he was given, the bigger his failures became.  Someone with so many addictions, that it quite simply had become part of his makeup.

Lying to ones face, believing what he had said was the most laughable, comedic and completely insane experience of my life.  I am a writer, my artistic licence allows me to sometimes embellish the truth, in order to capture an audience. The only audience John was trying to keep hold of, were those, not unlike himself.  They did not care about the ins and outs of the stories in his head.  This was about him justifying his appalling lies and digging himself out of yet another deep dark hole.  

As a person, he has the lowest moral standing of anyone, I have ever met.  He dealt drugs to survive; when he had used everything up, when he ran out of cash, drug money would suffice.  Sadly an addict like him, can not deal drugs, he has to feed his addictions, so he cut corners, stole from others, sold dangerous substances and people knew it!  They laugh at him, treat him with disdain and find him bombastic, grotesque and a liability!

He tried to destroy Darrell and I, making claims against our relationship; he publicly tried to destroy my character, by using mental illness against me.  He wrote publicly online about me having HIV and stole money from us. In fact his last text message stated how dangerous he was, and we should keep running, yet he still persisted, harassed and victimised!  I have seen him continually attack others and it is obscene! The world would be better off without him!

This cretin is out of our life.  If he dares to try to come back, I will destroy him.  Yes vengeful, so what? I always will be. No one tries to destroy me and my partner and those I love and expect me to welcome them back with open arms.  I AM NOT STUPID!

Sadly I have seen John in a good state, a great friend and someone who helped us when we needed it.  These times were rare and were probably done for his own reasons!