Judge of Character!

You either are or you aren't. Being a good judge of character or not, is very much dependent on life experience.  None of us are born to be a good judge, we can only learn over time, through life.  Personally I am one of the worst judge of characters, I have ever known.  I have always been that way!  My trouble is, I think and react with my heart.  If you pull at my heart strings in some way, then chances are I will fall for it. Over the last year of my life, before I came to Spain, I was tested to the limit where people were concerned.  Not only was I fooled into believing people were good when they were not, but I believed in the worst people, again and again.  Fooled. hook, line and sinker!

The worst of people are great at being the best of people, they learn from the good and mimic their ways, in order to obtain something from their victims.  This past year I have known so many people of a dubious nature, simply because I judged their character wrong.  Luckily, today none of them are left, they are all gone and removed from my life, they had to be!

Since moving to spain, the true colours of some of these people has shone through, even sending messages to me, admitting what or who they really were.  I guess they just wanted to shock me further, rub my nose in it or maybe, just maybe they had a twinge of guilt, which is highly doubtful.  Whatever their reasons, it didn't effect me, at least, at all.  I had already gathered who were the good and who were the bad a long time ago.  Even then, after what we went through, it didn't surprise or phase me, because my views of people have changed dramatically in recent times, as you would expect!

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My trusting nature and giving ways have now gone.  Personally I think that is a bad think, because it made me who I am.  I have always been a giver, but through knowledge, life skills and understanding of human nature, I can no longer be that person.  I was forever giving people second chances, accepting their excuses and inviting them back in my life.  This time it is very different.

These so called friends were instrumental in isolating me, at a time when I needed people there.  They cast accusations upon those, who now I luckily speak to again. They called them all the names, I now know them to be.  They are rotten to the core and in time others will also find out the truth about them.  They have to, because if they don´t, then they will also become victims, that's if they are not already!

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It wasn't until I moved to Spain that I realised just what good, decent people were. People have gone out of their way to help us, rather like I did for others in the past.  It is of course hard accepting help, especially when you are so untrusting, but it has been very welcome and reciprocated when I am able.  I have spoken to a few close friends out here about various different incidents and all of them have been brutally honest.  In fact you may be surprised to know, that I am not alone, where my circumstances is concerned.

This time I am taking advice and listening to the right people, who can guide me in the correct direction.  I have never listened before, so this is a first for me.  In fact, I have avoided certain individuals here, because of advice from others and I knew quite quickly, their advice was right.

To all those I would love to name and shame and probably will, when the time is right, I am happy living in my new home, with new people, friends and colleagues.  They are streets above you in every respect.  I would like to thank you for finally revealing your true selves and now I can move forward, without the likes of you in my life. 

To those who we lost contact with and have now rekindled friendships, you are most welcome at our new home any time!

Peace and love always!
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