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From a new life in spain, to an old life in britain, 'roaming brit' documents uncertain times!

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On 31st January 2016, my partner and I left Southampton to start a new life as Expats in Gran Alacant, on the Costa Blanca. This blog will document our journey, as we navigate the Spanish system, travelling a path untried and untested. With Brexit looming, political turmoil in Europe and an unpredictable future, harsh decisions have to be made. Illness, family bonds and a Change of heart all make for challenging times in a life of a 'Roaming Brit!'

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Charlatan or Confidant - Part X

11/1/2017

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The final piece in the puzzle


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Reliving events that brought us to spain,
​'abandoned'

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With revelations about Oxfam's role in bullying, endemic throughout the organisation, coming to light, recently; with the death of a Manager in Ireland, taking her own life; I thought it would be appropriate to finish 'Charlatan or Confidant'. This is a detailed account of a conversation, that took place between myself and a representative from Oxfam, put in place to liase with myself and my partner, over a five month period in 2015. This is the tenth and final part.

As Penny, the secret Director, reached the end of her remit, the relationship between her and us broke down.  Exactly who was this person? What was her remit? Did she succeed?
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​'Abandoned'

Penny's words are in light green script, mine are in dark blue!  These are online messages, sent in real time, so the grammar, punctuation, will not be perfect!  I have used single capital letters to keep the names of those involved confidential! I have also highlighted important sentences in red!​​​
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28/08/2015 

Penny, how does D go about complaining about PH. I have never seen him this bad, Something needs to be done. They may have his life in their hands. Lies, lies, lies. H's statements, lies. It has to stop! x

D has told the truth all the way along the line. It has got him no where. I can not stand by and watch him deteriorate any further. I want him to resign by the end of today. He has no choice, or I will phone his Doctor. Not having a go at u, honestly x


I would wait for the findings, then contact the board of trustees xx

30/08/2015 

I have been asked to write a piece about the events leading to my collapse. I am going to send a rough draft for you to look at. It is an emotive piece as requested. Names will be changed but can you let me know what you think. Not comprehensive, but I only have a certain amount of space!

31/08/2015 

Just read it.... An honest, truthful painful account of all of what's happened. xx
Are you going to include, Ian's broken foot, and how she demanded him to go to work? Purely on the basis it's factual info on breech of H&S and lack of compassion for a staff member? Yet another failing. xx

Not in this no, I am keeping it as simple as I can, without adding too much detail. This is more about the emotional side of it. I will send each board of Trustee a copy, when the time is right. When I discovered the Sociopath campaign that Oxfam ran in 2012, I was a little shocked to be honest. They already had the answers, in black and white. Not sure quite how to deal with things like that atm. I will in time! x

Are you still withdrawing from cascade tomorrow? J is going to meeting tomorrow. He spoke to solicitor and they said go, but he may get disciplinary. X

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I won't be using the cascade for 6 wks due to seasonal sales. X

What about long term. This charade needs to be sorted. He is emailing questions to A and will not be going to meeting. How long is thus nonsense going on for. She needs to go..x

05/09/2015

You all had to leave us to fight this didn't you. Thanks for nothing. One day u will all have regrets. I hate Oxfam for ever becoming part of my life. F**king hate the lot of u

06/09/2015 

That was not a personal slight. My partner is broken, I am broken, J is broken, my colleagues are broken. Everyone is broken over this. We are tired, ill and old. Our lives are ruined while those at the top couldn't care less. I am angry, sad and upset.
Never believe me venting is personal it isn't if I don't do it I will crack.
Sorry if I offended.
Always x
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A work colleague, who I knew, introduced herself to me as a friend, through her psychic abilities, where she had met my dead Grandmother, in April 2015. I know, you couldn't make it up!  This was all she needed to befriend me at a very difficult point in my life.  I believed her, because I wanted to.

Over a five month period, Penny became very close.  Her role changed from psychic to spokesperson for Oxfam, confidant, friend, secret Director and intermediary, speaking on mine and my partners behalf, whilst suffering at the hands of a bully and sociopath at Oxfam.

At the time this all happened, we both had a firm belief in her abilities and trusted her fully.  She was the person, we were told to deal with by head office, she was the help we needed. 

The truth of who she was is difficult to comprehend, but after taking advice from trusted organisations and sources we were made aware of her role.  She was there to misdirect us, sending us down a road, where we would not jeopardise Oxfam's reputation.  During her five month professional tenure, she became whoever we wanted her to be, so long as legal action against the charity we worked for, was avoided.  Penny was working for those in HR, doing their bidding.  She was also in all probability another sociopath, just like the manager, Veronica, who had tried so hard to destroy myself and Darrell. Legally, we were told she was the best person for the job.  After all, the only person able to defeat or get in the mind set of a person with Anti Social Personality Disorder, was someone who suffered from it themselves.

This person had a dubious past, Oxfam knew that, it's why they took her on in the first place.  She felt she owed them something.  She was put in my region, because she was able to tame a sociopathic Area Manager.

Oxfam could not remove Veronica, as Area Manager, because, as a sociopath, she would use her power to bring down Oxfam and anyone who got in her way. Myself and Darrell were used as scapegoats, to collect more information on this degenerate; we were expendable. When the time is right, we will be called to give evidence against her.  Penny was there merely to stop myself and Darrell from realising the truth and taking the necessary legal action that would be required to safeguard our future, before Oxfam had enough proof and Veronica could be removed!

When I look back at this dreadful time; despite all the pain, it has made me the person I am.  I worked in a region for a charity, with vulnerable people, where not one, but two, or more sociopaths resided. My life and that of my colleagues were put in danger daily, but myself and Darrell survived.  

I will continue to tell this story, up until the day those responsible are arrested. In 2012, Oxfam ran a campaign against sociopaths, yet their ranks are filled with those, who wish to cause harm to others. Their actions are now responsible for a death.  Stand up to the bullies and make sure you are never a victim again! 
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