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    Shameful Acts!

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    After over a year, I am able to finally speak the truth about what happened to me, whilst working for the largest UK charity.  My boss Veronica was and still is a Sociopath.  She ignored every Heath and Safety issue going.  She endangered my life and that of vulnerable people under her Management.  When I complained about the  way others were being treated, she started to attack me with lies .  In all probability, this dreadful excuse for a human being has been acting dangerously for quite a while, years in fact.  What she has done and continues to do, is known, yet nothing is done about it.  She has been left in place, endangering anyone who works within her Area.

    I was taken out of work because of illness.  Illness bought on by a direct campaign of abuse and lies.  I was offered guidance by someone, who said she was working at the highest level, within my Head Office.  She had been protecting me and looking out for my interests.  This was denied, by those she claimed to work for.  Her partner was a psychologist, although I have no direct proof of this.  He spoke with me at length, offering support.  Once again his involvement was not clear and when confronted, was unable to substantiate who or what he was.

    I was given no direct help by my employer, who could not admit what was going on.  I had transcripts of texts and conversations, showing just how abhorrent these people were, my boss, a colleague who offered support and her partner, all of whom were instrumental in causing great harm, both physically and mentally to myself.

    I took advice from various charities, helplines and lawyers.  All of whom, came to the same conclusion.  They were probably all sociopathic and not only used me, but other colleagues to further their own ends, game playing and distasteful acts of abuse.  I was told to leave my job, home and Country, travel as far away as I could and to never go back.  I now live in a foreign Country, because of these horrendous people.  I am rebuilding my life, I am happy and no longer suffering from their abuse!

    These people should be bought to account for their actions.  My ex employer does not seem to care, or have the willpower to do anything.  They have left me and other good colleagues to suffer, every single day.  All of us are victims of systematic abuse, yet a charity, yes a charity, the biggest charity, did nothing,  In many cases it even sanctioned what was going on.

    My life was in danger and you ignored that.  I promise you, I will do everything in my power, now, to bring you all to book. You didn't even offer a letter of apology, as you promised.  I left your employment with nothing, to save my sanity and you made sure I didn't receive a penny.  I have not forgotten this sorry episode and will now work with whoever I am able, to make sure you see the error of your ways,  

    There is no place in society for sociopaths, they should be dealt with!
    I don´t think anyone will fully understand what you  feel like as a person, after going through what I endured.  You reach your lowest ebb and it does feel like you are on your own.  Of course you are not on your own at all, far from it.  Someone like Veronica, has done to others, what she has most recently been doing to me.  When I look back, I am now fully aware of all those that she had abused.  All of them were vulnerable in some way, whether through illness, age or learning disability.

    She was able to use others who worked for her, as her accomplices.  Whether she made up lies or just groomed her 'apaths' for her own ends, I don't know.  What I will say, is they were instrumental in the violation of not only myself, but others too. Henry and Suzie, two low lives, poor excuses and liars, who were used by Veronica to do her dirty work.  Once again my Head Office were well aware of what was going on.  They wriggled and squirmed for over a year as they tried to deny and get out of responsibility, for their and their staffs actions.  The only interest they had, was protecting the reputation of a charity, that was discredited and should be investigated for the most destructive, disgusting and dangerous behaviour, I have ever witnessed.

    I had been suffering for a while, at least two years and probably far longer.  When I tried to get the truth and answers to what had happened to me, I constantly came up against a brick wall.  I was told I would never know the full truth, the extent of those involved  or the length of time this had gone on for.  So the victim, the person who was used and abused, who's life was in danger, would never be allowed to know the truth. These were the type of people I was dealing with.
    The hardest part for me, was explaining to others what had happening and exactly what was going on in my life.  Most people had never heard of the word Sociopath. Like me it was something, I had never or ever want to deal with again.  These people are Psychopaths in all but name.  They exist on the fringes of society and no one wants to admit they are one, let alone an employer admitting they have one or more working for them.  An employer would have to have complete, concrete evidence against an employee, before they pursued a case against someone, if not they risk reprisal action against themselves, which is why I was convulsed and deteriorated so much.  I was expendable, in my employers eyes and would cause far less damage than a deranged sociopathic Manager out for revenge!

    For over a year I was left to fend for myself.  I was given no direct help or advice from my employer.  In reality, they tried to offload all responsibility.  It wasn't until I began talking to those in the know, including charities like 'Mind' that I finally realised what was going on.  Realisation is a hard thing to deal with.  It causes shock, post traumatic stress, illness and collapse.  Remember, I had to find out the information myself or was given it by someone who claimed to be someone she probably wasn't, working at Head Office in a secret capacity.  I am not even sure, she even knew who she was,  In all probability this person is also a Sociopath.

    I suppose the worst thing of all, is just how other work colleagues react.  I was not the only person who was attacked, there were others.  One of which knew what was going on and was a great source of support and inspiration.  Another colleague, who  was living with us, although  he suffered in a similar way, in the end turned his back on me, just as others had done.  They knew exactly what was going on, yet didn't want to become the next victim, so blocked out the truth!

    I don't lame these people for their inaction, as no one wants to become a victim.  What does incense me more than anything, is the people that turned their backs, were supposedly good, charitable people, working tirelessly to help others, yet when a colleague needed help, they could not have cared less and in some cases were instrumental in helping a sociopath cause  mayhem and wreak havoc upon our region. Not only was this woman trying to destroy people, but she was also sabotaging our area, by misappropriation of funds, responsible for continued falling income and spending so much time, trying to cause destruction,  that she forgot to Manage the shops she was responsible for.  She was never at work, nobody knew where she was and was never contactable.  

    This person is still in charge of twenty Managers and 700 vulnerable volunteers, yet remains in situ.  I suppose my ex employer is waiting for something even more serious to happen, to then have enough evidence to force her out.  There were too many middle class employees at Head Office, living in the most expensive part of Britain, protecting their lives and incomes, to care about dealing with some of the most destructive influences in their back yard.  This is shameful at the very least, dangerous and life threatening at worst, but for me, shocking and something I will live with forever.

    ​Just over a year later, I now have to decide what to do.  This is something I have already made a decision about, although will not be publishing on  here.  At the moment I have been collecting all the evidence together.  The evidence I have, was looked at by a professional, a few months ago, who agreed there should be an investigation, so I know the truth is in there.  I just have to make a choice about how and when to present the details and to whom it would be most appropriate to show. Over the next few months I will be making a final decision as to what direction I take.  

    As ever, all your comments are always welcome!

    ​Peace and love, always! x

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    Friendships

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    I wanted to talk today, about friendships.  Friends are the most important people in my life for many reasons. I am not as close to my family as I should be.  To be honest as a family, we have never really been united.  Something happened along the line and we all just drifted apart.  As readers of all my blogs know, I do not talk to my parents at all. The reasons for this are well known and sadly none of us have made an effort to change that situation.  Whether or not it will change in the future, nobody knows!  A lot more time needs to pass, before any bridges are rebuilt.  Time is a great healer as they say, and we certainly need a lot of it, in order to repair the damage caused!

    So for most of my life, I have relied heavily on friends to fill the void, that my family left behind.  Rightly or wrongly, I have embraced that choice to the fall. Jamie is like a son to me and holds a very special place in my heart.  As you would, your own son or daughter, I would give the World, to see that he is okay.  He is a good lad and just needs a step up in life.  A little bit of help will go a long way to help him, achieve all his goals!
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    As one would expect, we have had a lot of friends in our life over our twenty years together.  Most of them have drifted in and out of our circle, quickly, it has to be said. People who are there one minute and gone the next.  In fact, I suppose I shouldn't even call them friends, because they never really were.  There is a brief moment, when you feel you are close, but soon realise you are nothing but!

    Others hang around that much longer.  These people are the manipulators, the ones I have never been able to quite work out.  Oh they come across quite genuine at the beginning, extending the hand of friendship, but these people are false.  The closer you get, the more you recognise the signs of exploitation.  Darrell and I have met many people like this.  Even up to the day we left the UK, certain individuals were still claiming to be members of our close network, who would never let us down, but as I know now,  nothing could be further from the truth!

    When I look back at the above photograph, taken at our Wedding in September 2015, I can, even that short time ago, safely say, that a quarter of the people there, should probably not have been.  They were never friends in the real sense of the word.  They were opportunists, Machiavellian and contriving.  These people were part of a long term problem in our life.  They were part of the reason we left for Spain in the first place.  Shrewd, amoral and underhanded, this was the real face behind the facade of alliance.  They were out for what they could get and when it didn't materialise, their true, unscrupulous selves shone through.  Luckily they are in the past and one day they will very much get what they deserve!
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    I am trying to do things differently this time.  I always said after what happened, I would never have close friends again.  I had all the close friends I could possibly need and there was no room for anymore or no possibility, of making the same mistakes again.  From now on, I would be looking out for me and my nearest and dearest, only.  In a way there was a slight tinge of bitterness, but also a realisation, that maybe I was not cut out to see through others deception and really should just concentrate on those friendships I already had, after all they had more than proven who they were and the bonds we now had, were strong enough to endure the test of time.  Why even bother with anyone else, the consequences could be horrendous!

    ​This outlook has changed dramatically.  A few weeks after living in Spain, Jamie received a vicious message from  someone we thought was close.  He admitted how he had used all of us and was only out for what he could get.  I had let this person back into my life twice and did actually hold him in high regard, so comprehending what he was really like was hard, but lasted only briefly. I suppose I knew deep down what he was actually like, I just always denied my own perception and the voice of warning in my head!
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    I can go through life, staying bitter and angry, but then that would mean that person and others like him would have won.  I can't go through life, avoiding every person who may come my way, because of bad memories.  The best way to beat these people, is to move forwards, live my life better than theirs and don´t let them achieve their goal of destruction towards me and others like me.  I am open to all forms of friendships again, but this time, I am taking advice from others.  Others who are  a far better judge of character than I, and to be honest, the people in Gran Alacant, are great at offering guidance, but not everyone, gives the correct information, that is clear.  

    ​After three months in Gran Alacant, we have met quite a few people.  Most of those we have spoken to have been genuine in my eyes, though even me, the worst judge of character, has seen through a few of the less savoury residents.  I have also been warned about others to avoid or told to just keep my distance from the residue.  I suppose this has to be one of the most close knit places I have ever lived, with objectionable and good people voicing their opinions loud. This is not to say I hate it here, far from it.  I love this place with all my heart,  because those we have met, who are good and genuine, are the most rewarding group I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.

    There are good and bad eggs in every community.  You are never going to live somewhere, completely isolated from the worst life can throw your way.  Although a lot of chatter exists in GA, it doesn't make it a bad place.  This is the best place I have ever lived  and I enjoy everything about it, especially the people, both expat and otherwise.  Everyone here are a welcome break from those we knew in Southampton, who were grotesquely bad for us.  I have many good friends still there, and when you move away, you do finally find out who your true friends are.  I have lost a few, already and I expect to loose more in the future.
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    The future is the key!  In time I will forget most of those I knew and disliked in The UK. Even the behaviour of those who I worked with, in authority, who abused their power, will be forgotten.  Memories do fade and that will finally allow me to lay to rest the cretins of the past!  Theses people are and will always be dreadful individuals, but that should never stop me from establishing new friendships.  I have learned a great deal from what happened in my life and from those who influenced its direction.  I intend to re-establish those friendships in Britain, that should never have suffered.  I also intend to remain open and receptive to new understandings in Spain.  If I didn't, then my life would be all the poorer.  Learning from what happened and how to recognise abhorrent people, is also something I need to be more aware of.  It will help me establish my new life, in a positive way!

    To all those, who are still in my life, thanks for being there.  To all those I have just met in Spain, thanks for being a part of my life, I look forward to many years of continued consonances!

    ​Peace and love, always!
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    Closure!

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    It's nearly time to close my British Book, but not before I say goodbye properly. The final page, promises to be the best!
            Luke 26 April 2016
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