When you have very little and no one to full back on, you do learn quite quickly to become independent of mind, you have too, it is a matter of survival! This was the time I met my current partner. Darrell was Australian, living thousands of miles away from home, so like myself, had to learn to become independent. His mother was helping him fund his trip, but essentially we were on our own as a couple.
To be honest, we have never really had an awful lot, financially. Whatever we did have, we worked hard for, very hard and others saw that. Our aptitude and brief periods of success were always interrupted by the bad elements in our life, the people who saw us, finally doing something for ourselves, realised we had no one else to rely on, so used our situation to gain respect and love from us. My liberty, that I so craved and wanted, had become the reason I was failing in life. standing alone and having no family for support, had made myself and Darrell a target for those, who wanted what we had achieved, no matter how little. These terrible individuals offered the one thing I did not have, unconditional love, rather like a family gives a child, which I had not experienced in many years. I took their love as literal, they used it as a way to manipulate for material gain.
For the twenty years Darrell and I have been together, this has been the story of our life. Our independence, has been used by those who were unable to have their own freedoms, either through apathy, laziness or thinking the World owes them something. On numerous occasions our life together, as a couple, has been under threat from people, who quite simply are manipulators, who through their own faults, have to use others to gain, what they are unable to achieve themselves.
