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    21st Anniversary!

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    21 years together, 1 year Married!

    So it's one year on from mine and Darrell's Wedding and twenty one years from the day we started our relationship together, in 1995. Last year we got married on our 20th Anniversary, in front of family and friends, at the Golden Jubilee Room, in Southampton.  It was a great day for us, being able to cement our relationship together, legally.  We had a 'Rite of Blessing' in 1998, but nothing  compared to the meaning behind a marriage sanctioned in law.

    A lot has happened in one year, let alone 21.  Although living apart temporarily, Darrell in Australia, myself in Spain, we are still very much together, working to ensure our future stability, together,  in Europe.  We are doing what we have to do, to live the rest of our life as we would want to.

    My wedding day was the happiest day of my life, so far at least.  Being surrounded by those you love, on such a special day, is memorable and heartwarming.  At least I am talking to most of those who attended, with the exception of one or two, but then it wouldn't be me if I didn't fall out with someone, would it!

    The partying continued for a few days;  after such a traumatic time we decided to celebrate, what was essentially the ending of our life in Southampton, welcoming in new, meaningful and untested times.  So far, both of us have no regrets and are finally living life, in the way we would want.

    I miss Darrell every every day, but understand our living apart is only temporary.  In a few years we will be together again, celebrating our anniversary together.  Happy 21st Anniversary Darling, see you soon!

    ​Thanks to everyone for all their good wishes.

    Mucho amor para todos ustedes!
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    Ignorance Is No Excuse - Oxfam

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    The title of this blog entry today, should be seen from a number of different angles. Let me first explain the nature of my words.  Most of my readers are well aware of what happened in my life over the last few years.  If not take a look at my other blogs to find out.
    The circumstances of why I ended up living in Spain are clear from my first two blogs, describing the events that led to my departure from The UK and the restarting of my life.  Since moving to The Costa Blanca, I have not given up the fight to right a terrible wrong, that is still playing out in one of the biggest charities in the world.    I have been approached by agents, newspapers, magazines and in one case British morning television.  All of whom, are interested in exposing, just what happened to me and others.  I am still taking advice, everyday, from legal representatives, as to the consequences of any future action by me.  There has been times, when I have been unsure, about what I have experienced, and need clarification, from others, who like me, have been in a similar or much worse position.

    The one single phrase that keeps popping up, time and time again, is 'Ignorance is no excuse'.  The phrase should apply to all of us, during our life, legally and otherwise. During my time at this charity, I suffered a deterioration in health, resulting from neglect and a denial of the rules, laws and guidelines put in place to protect employees. My Manager, offloaded her responsibility, claiming ignorance.  She purported to have no knowledge of my Bipolar, when in fact she did,  She claimed to not know the law, with regards to illness in the workplace, when she had a duty to research and understand the implications. Most damaging of all, she ignored, not only my cry for help, but that of others also.  My life was put severely at risk, resulting in possible death.  All the while, this 'wonderful' charity I worked for, hid the truth, protected the perpetrators, left vulnerable people to fend for themselves and refused to do anything to protect their workforce.  Shocking behaviour, but all true, documented and  saved. IGNORANCE IS NO EXCUSE!
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    So my Manager ignored her staff and her superiors disregarded her failings, which were many and growing, the last time I worked for them.  There were also others who paid no attention to what was going on, under their very noses; WORK COLLEAGUES; A growing number of my peer group, were well aware of what was happening to me and other Managers.  In fact I actually informed several of them myself, after all, they should be aware of a serious situation, so they can protect themselves and of course, those volunteers who worked for them.  Unsurprisingly, my messages were disregarded, yet again.

    For me this was the most shocking aspect to what happened.  However, when taking advice, I was told this is typical.  One person told me, it is called the 'Hitler Affect'. Under Hitlers leadership, people were well aware of what was going on, persecution, victimisation and mass murder, yet they did nothing to stop or help prevent it. It is a disturbing fact, that my colleagues, turned their back on me and others, because they wanted to protect their own self interest.  These were supposed to be, good, honourable, charitable individuals, who devoted their lives to helping eradicate poverty in Africa, yet they turned a blind eye to their own kin folks suffering.  Once again, shocking; IGNORANCE IS NO EXCUSE!

    When the time is right, my story will be told.  Those who were responsible, will without a doubt be prosecuted. I know that will happen, because I have that guarantee. Others who took part, knowingly or not, will also suffer the consequences of their actions or inactions.  Only they can answer for what they did or didn't do.  You have to remember, these were friends as well as colleagues.  That sometimes makes it hard to bare!

    As time goes on, I am told, I will begin to forget what happened, rebuild my life and move on.  That possibly is true; certainly not yet.  All the time those who took part in horrendous crimes against others are in post, I will continue to work for justice.  Good must prevail.  If I don't do anything and something terrible happens, I would be as guilty as those who violated me.  One day, I will finally sleep easy in my bed!

    REMEMBER .... IGNORANCE IS NO EXCUSE!

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    Outside!

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    Got up rather late this today.  Precious was battering down my bedroom door for food at 12 pm.  The good thing is, she is waking me up later and later now, as I train her to eat food at a more appropriate time, rather than 6am, as was usual.

    ​Spoke to Darrell briefly online this morning, who seems to be OK in Australia.  Summer is on its way there,so things should be hotting up. Darrell hates the winter, so can't wait for the change in season.

    In Spain, we are into Autumn.  Temperatures are still at 28 -30 degrees in The Costa Blanca region, although nights are getting significantly cooler.

    I gave the roof terrace another good clean this morning, with the broken broom, I vandalised the other day.  We live right on the edge of a ravine, so keeping the front of the house clean is essential, with all the debris that gets blown in from the bottom of Heart Attack Hill!

    I have swept and washed down the solarium and quad and just about finished cleaning the balcony.  Despite having no garden, there is actually more outside space in this house, that at my old home Gay Capri.  LIke most of spain, there is no grass, just concrete and tiles; which suits me far better.  I hate gardening at the best of times.  Sweeping down tiles, is about my limit!

    ​That's all the cleaning done.  Time to cook dinner then settle down for the evening!​
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    Dinner!

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    Dinner all cooked,  Stuffed chicken with roast potatoes. Leftovers frozen down as usual, just how it is done in Spain!
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