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    New York - My First and Last!

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    New York was the only place in America I'd ever wanted to go to. This is a city that has captivated my imagination for many years and when I was given the opportunity to travel there in 2002, I jumped at the chance. This was only a short time after the Twin Towers had been unceremoniously brought down by a terrorist attack in 2001, and I was apprehensive about travelling, but it was too good an opportunity to miss. Darrell had already decided he didn't want to go, the United States had never appealed to him, and he suggested I take a friend with me instead. I paid for a young girlfriend from Whiteparish, the local village, where we lived, to fly with me for the week-long holiday, the first I had been on, without my husband!

    Arriving at JFK Airport, we were a World away from the UK. The security measures in place were exceptional, taking two hours to finally see us through customs and into the unseasonably hot spring weather outside. There was no limousine waiting for us at the terminal, just a yellow cab and a bumpy ride to our hotel overlooking Central Park. Sitting in the back, we were cramped and hot, separated from the driver by a perspex screen. The leg room was tight; I tried to get comfortable for the long ride through Queens and Brooklyn, desperate to arrive in Manhattan as soon as we could. As we approached the Queensboro Bridge over the East River, I was feeling irritated and anxious. There was no air-conditioning in the car and after fighting furiously with the electric window, no fresh air either. I was however amazed by this great bridge, so typically New York in style, towering above the car as we slowly drove through the pulsating traffic, gridlocked in every direction. This may well have been the journey from hell, but it is a memory that has stayed with me. Sometimes the most enduring recollections aren't always the best!

    Our hotel on West 71st Street, small and rather intimate, comfortable and homely, was the ideal base for the next seven days. American breakfast was served each morning, which mainly consisted of muffins and pancakes, washed down with gallons of coffee; the best start for the day ahead. Walking through the streets of Manhattan, we explored Times Square, taking in the breathtaking views from The Empire State Building and ate lunch at Trump Tower, sat outside watching people pass by. I remember casually lighting a cigarette after a light lunch; the gasps from other customers was almost deafening. This was clearly a practice frowned upon and I quickly stubbed it out, looking highly embarrassed, as I sunk back into my dining chair. Eloise, my companion looked on, rather amused, giggling to herself - we are certainly not in Whiteparish any more. Check paid we left hurriedly, towards Madam Tussauds.

    Central Park was an escape from the busy city outside and as the temperature soared, we spent far more time walking around this magnificent green space than anticipated. Sat on a bench, looking out towards cyclists, dog walkers, joggers, lunchtime book readers and children playing Frisbee, tennis and handball, I was reminded of my own childhood. Central Park brought people together, in a way a concrete city just can't; surrounded by buildings on all sides, this open landscape is the crowning glory of Manhattan. It was unusual and alien in every respect, but a special place, full of beauty and poignancy for New Yorkers and tourists alike.

    Sheltering from the midday sun, collecting my thoughts, I wrote a few words on some paper, that I still have today - ' New York is everything I expected, but Central Park is more; the city dweller has finally turned into a country boy!' Of course, I love this great city, but I preferred the clean air, open fields and tree lined walk ways. As I wrestled with my conscience in the years ahead, sadly urban life won the day. If I could live my life again, this would be one road I would change!

    I was sad to leave 'The Big Apple,' I enjoyed every aspect of my time there. From the corned beef and gravy at the Deli, the art deco architecture and twenty-four hour nightlife, I was in awe of it all. It isn't a place I particularly want to visit again however, content with my time spent there, but looking forward to the idyllic Wiltshire countryside and the place I called home. As our Lincoln town car arrived to take us to JFK (I had learned my lesson concerning New York cabs.) and I climbed into the back, sinking my feet into the plush red carpet, I suddenly felt tired and ready for home. This was an amazing place to visit, but it just wasn't a city to stay for long. New York was my first dip into America and likely to be my last. Since Donald Trump has become President, my views of Americans have become less than favourable. With so much more of the World to see, the United States is no longer my destination of choice. New Yorks enduring pull is also its inevitable downfall, there is only so much hustle and bustle one man can take!

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    Final Family Toast

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    Thursday was our last family toast; as the World has moved into the 'new normal,' so we have decided to end our salutations together, which have been taking place since 9th April, right at the beginning of the pandemic. As a family, we have all had our ups and downs, coping with the difficulties that COVID-19 brought to us all. We have, however, kept in touch and continued to celebrate the importance of family and friends, even during the darkest of times.

    The World, may well have moved into a strange sense of normality, but the virus is still there creating havoc, destroying lives, separating family and leaving destruction in its wake, so we may well be back celebrating once again, sooner than we think. Darrell and I will continue to do our toast together as a family, we are still living apart, unable to see one another, because of this crisis. This weekly tribute has brought Darrell, Mum and me a lot closer, despite the distance between us and it will be a shame to lose that now.

    This event has encompassed Birthdays, celebrations, illness, good and bad times and has documented nearly three months when Britain changed like never before. Looking back and this period in history as all of us grow older, will be important for future generations. As all of us age, babies become toddlers and families are reunited once again, we can all be proud of what we have achieved in the face of adverse times.

    The television has been full of images, reminding us of the very real threat that continues to this day. We have seen Hospital and care works save countless lives, key workers pushing ever harder to ensure the Great British public are able to carry on living as normal a life as possible, Captain Tom, raise thirty-three million pounds for NHS workers, VE Day, The Queen's Birthday and parents homeschooling children up and down the country; this strange chapter has shown the best and worst of human nature. The photographs we took, had stories of sadness and grief behind faces, left simmering for just a moment, as all of us took the time to put on a smile for the people we love.

    A big thank you to everyone who took part in our 'Non Touch Toast,' you have all been great and a fabulous source of support, especially for Darrell and I. We can all see each other in the flesh once again, but the memories of what transpired over the last few months will linger for a long time yet. They say 'a photo can tell a thousand words,' which indeed it can, capturing a moment in time, none of us what to experience again, chronicling the enduring bonds of family, as the World, fell apart, at the seams!

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    Clayborne Embraces The 'New Normal!'

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    From the 24th July all of us will be required to wear masks in confined spaces, like shops. We already have to wear them on public transport and this was a natural next step in the fight against Coronavirus. In my opinion this should have been done four months ago, but we are where we are, and just have to make the best of this terrible situation we find ourselves in.

    At Cancer Research we are also getting ready for the big day and Clayborne the Cancer Research Teddy, has also been given a new mask, made by our very own Anita, who also volunteers for the charity. 2020, the year that never was, should have been a busy period for Clayborne, travelling to Japan and Thailand, and like all of us, he is feeling the strain, looking forward to his next trip abroad. In the meantime he is venturing out and about around Portsmouth with me when we can.

    Remember to wear your masks from Friday and help protect shop staff like me, during this crucial phase of the pandemic. Without your support we couldn't continue doing the job we do, making money for cancer research; we look forward to welcoming you on your next visit, sporting your new mask of course!

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    Well that's the end of the public information advert. I had a particularly successful day at the shop today, sorting out the electrical department, which was looking rather tired.

    We managed to make £260.00 last week on electrical items, (£2600 overall) a great total after four months of lock down and I want to continue this growing trend. This is my section, so I only have a few hours to stock up; still I think it's looking great for the days ahead. Whatever you are doing this week, have a good one!

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    Photographs of Hope - Family Toast, good to see your faces!

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    Inspirational photographs at a time of crisis, creating positivity for the future!

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    Two familiar faces back for this week's family toast. It's been a long time coming, but it's great to see Aunty Sue and Karen back once again.

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    Reconnecting With Mrs F - Mindful of the times we now live in!

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    Last week I managed to see Mrs F, as soon as lockdown restrictions were lifted. After shielding for the recommended twelve weeks, Mrs F felt it was safe to finally venture outside for the first time. Of course, it was good to see her, but I was and still am, sceptical about the lifting of restrictions so soon, especially for the most vulnerable in society. This deadly virus is still about  and isn't going anywhere soon.

    Chatting with her, it was clear that she hadn't enjoyed her forced isolation. Like most older people, she spends a lot of the time on her own in any event, so the last three months of this pandemic have just highlighted her vulnerability. I sensed that she just needed someone to talk to, so took some time out from work briefly, to have a chat to her on her way home.

    Mrs F is always a joy to talk to, with so many stories to tell and I always appreciate her company, so seeing her face light up, as I had a brief conversation was a joy to be seen. She explained that she didn't speak to family as much as she would like and always looked forward to seeing me at work. Of course working in a customer focused environment, you do come across many people on a daily basis and each of us who work in the department, have customers who come in just to see us, each day. We can and do take the time to speak with each person for as long as they need, and they value the small talk. During this pandemic I have seen many people who live alone, coming in for a quick tête-à-tête, while they pick up their essential shopping. This was a life line for many, and I am glad all of us were able to help create a feeling of normality at a time of crisis.

    Last Sunday I phoned Mrs F, as I will later today, just to see how she is; I was able to spend a little more time than usual listening to her. Despite her only living a short walk away, I have said I will not come to her home, just in case I carry anything along I shouldn't. I am mindful of this virus at every juncture and continue to social distance, sanitize my hands and refrain from greeting in the usual way. When we talked a few days before, we stood the regulatory two meters apart, only elbow bumping briefly as she went about her day. This is hard for everyone, especially people like Mrs F, but it is necessary to ensure all of us are spared any heartache in the future.

    I still remain unable to see my father and other family members but when the time is right I will see them all again. I no longer trust this Government or its motives - when they told us it was safe to socialise at a limited level, I continued to keep my distance, as I still do now. The way they have acted throughout this crisis is been reprehensible, moving too slow to shut down and too quick to reopen. I will continue to do what I consider to be right, even if it means I am following a different path to others.

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    I was recently contacted by a friend in Gran Alacant, Spain, where Darrell and I used to live, who explained the COVID-19 situation there. It seems that the urbanization has had an outbreak of Coronavirus and local residents are being asked to follow strict guidelines in order to bring any upsurge under control. I have no idea what is going on there on the ground, but it is a pointer as to what expect everywhere across the World in the future. We have done remarkably well in Portsmouth, keeping the virus at bay, but if we are not careful we will see a second spike and people like Mrs F will once again have to shield.

    I will continue to do the right thing, probably until we have a vaccine in place to stop COVID-19. However, I am lucky to work in an environment, where I come into contact with customers and can maintain friendships and relationships with some truly wonderful characters. I am happy they are returning to normal life once again but always, always conscious of the threat that still lurks in the shadows. Every one of us should do what we can to stay close with our loved ones and look forward to a time, without the presence of Coronavirus in our midst! We should also treat this virus with the respect it deserves and avoid its manipulative path at all costs, keeping safe and staying as far away from others as we possibly can. Remember COVID continues to kill at an alarming rate and all of us are potential targets!
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    Cancer Research - First Day Back!

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    First day back at Cancer Research today, after a four-month break. It was great to see so many familiar faces and although the 'new normal' prevented us from working in exactly the same way we were used to, we did our best to carry on as best we could. It was good to know fiends and colleagues hadn't changed a bit, each with their own lockdown story to tell, but like me, everyone was pleased to be back, making money for Cancer Research UK!

    All of us have different reasons for volunteering; for many spending time with others is important, especially if they live alone. Cancer Research promotes friendships and encourages volunteers to form bonds, that they wouldn't otherwise have had. COVID-19 put a stop to social interaction and many of my colleagues have spent the last sixteen weeks alone. Coming back to this little shop in Portsmouth, has once again given them the confidence to express themselves in the company of others, something sadly missing in all our lives until recently. Getting back to the way things were isn't going to be easy, but tiny tentative steps should help, as all of us begin the process of once again reconnecting with others!

    I am thrilled to be back with some truly wonderful co-workers, who I have dearly missed. I am known for calling Cancer Research my 'Happy Place,' because that is exactly what it is. It boosts my sense of self-worth and gives me something to look forward to each week, able to chat with companions and make money for a cause I champion. It feels fantastic to be home - the first place I started working when I returned from Spain and a part of my life I will always hold dear!
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