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    Neighbours!

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    Dunbars

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    Had a busy day at Dunbars on Sunday, the longest day of the week for me!  I got home later on Saturday, after the Pianoman, Tony Johnson played at work and to be honest had only about two hours sleep, after Jamie kept me awake all night, with a coughing fit.  Jamie has asthma, so on occasion does have these episodes.  Personally I think he needs to give up smoking , but that's never going to happen!

    Zest

    We popped into Zest after work, as we always do on a Sunday, it's pay day after all, and when you have worked a ten hour shift, all you want is an ice cold beer.  Our lovely neighbours Lorraine and Allan popped in, after spending the day drinking.  We had a wonderful evening chatting with them both, as we always do.  What a fun pair they are and like everyone here in GA, extremely friendly and welcoming.  Danielle and Steve were also at Zest.  Danielle is the sweetest girl from Ireland, who is  an absolute treasure.  It is always great to see her and she never fails to put a smile on your face.

    Anyway we had quite a few beers and finally staggered home, but have no idea what the time was.  Lorraine and Allan leave Spain on Tuesday and will be back later on in the year.  I am certainly going to miss these two, they are an amazing couple, who have been nothing but generous towards us all!

    Writing

    Spending the day finishing off some writing, I have been asked to do, in regards to a project I am working on.  I don't want to say too much at the moment, but will do, as I near the end of
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    it.  I have submitted various pieces of work to a number of different publishing houses and so far the feedback has been extremely positive.  Positivity born of negativity can only be a good thing.  

    Many people have commented and remarked with regards to my blogs and the nature of some of the topics covered, deeply personal to me, hard to write and even harder to read back.  The main point of concern for those reading, is just how much damage the incidents written about continue to cause me.  I have to say, that I write about what happened, because that is part of the healing process.   To write ones thoughts and feelings down, is to relive and recall events, that need to be dealt with. Most people block out their feelings and try to avoid the inevitable pain they can cause. For me, writing them down, makes me face the ugly truth and try to analyse why events happened as they did.  I am a great analyst and like to have answers from questions I have.

    It is also very important to keep a diary or record, not only for myself, but also for others, to be used for future reference.  When the truth of what happened to myself and others surface, it is the recolection of heinous events, that will need to be investigated. By writing as I have, for well over a year now, I have not only started a process of renewal, but I have also started to set in motion, the next stage of finally laying the worst period of my life to rest.  It seems to be working.  I have many messages, daily from people who have been through similar experiences as I.  These messages, not only give me support, but also legitimise what I am trying to achieve through writing. The only goal, at the end of all of this, is to have my story told and the facts revealed to people who not only need to know, but also deserve to know.

    I have had to remember events, almost daily for my own closure and also for the official route I am now following.  I may well no longer work for the organisation, that caused so much damage to others, but those responsible are still in place, have learned nothing, by all accounts and are still being protected, by a group of shady individuals, who have no right or place to do what they are doing.  The official line, the one I am being reminded of, the one I am been told is true and the one that I am now pursuing is there should be an enquiry and heads should roll.  I will never give up.  Even threats from those involved, will not distract me from what I have to do.  I walked away once, I will not do it again.  In reality, I can't walk away this time, my complaint has gone, just too far!

    I will always be a writer and will continue to fight for justice, not only for me, but also for others in my position.  My case, is not an isolated incident.  Sociopathic behaviour exists and others, even less able to cope than I, have to countenance such disgusting acts of violation, on a daily basis.  It is important, for me at least to write down what happened, to hopefully stop it happening to me again, but also to help others cope with what is going on in their lives.  This finally brings me to the project I am completing currently.  Without giving away too much detail, I have been asked to write a 'self help' article, if you like, for others to refer to, who may well be suffering as I did. I am on a third draft and I am hopeful it will be in print soon.

    Whatever your passion is, channel it into your everyday life experiences.  Keep doing what makes you happy and never be distracted from telling the truth!

    Peace and love always

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    Settled!

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    I think I can safely say, that this past week has been the one, where I have finally felt settled in Spain.  It has been a hard road, getting  here and in all honesty, at the beginning, I really did not want to leave Britain.  When you have lived in a place all your life, it can be extremely hard leaving. I have tried living in other Countries, several times before, and each time, it hasn't worked out.  I missed home too much and just wanted to go back.

    There are many reasons why I feel far more settled now, in Spain than I have done in the past.  The circumstances that bought me and my partner to Spain this time, were extremely negative.  This was not initially a positive decision, something we chose to do together.  This was a forced compromise, advised by others in view of what had happened to us.  Under such strained times, the apprehension, revulsion and reluctance you feel, can be overwhelming and certainly not a positive step towards a new life.

    Spain has worked for me, more than anyone else,  for many reasons. The last few days in Britain were terrible days for me.  People who I regarded as friends were not and they proved without a shadow of a doubt, just how dreadful they were.  The people I relied on, during the last year, were only really there, to gain what they could, out of our situation.  Once you come to terms with that fact and accept who they are, as shocking as it is, you really can move forward.  The sudden realisation, that you are leaving for good and never going back, is a great place to start. Once you have removed those stumbling blocks away from your future direction, the process does actually become quite liberating.  I had already removed the worst of the worst from my life.  I walked away from difficult situations, because I had too much self respect. Sadly for Darrell, he would bring the debris with him, at least for a period of time.  This made him ill and unable to cope, in the way I did.

    ​From the second day, I arrived in Spain, I began my own journey of establishing myself as a permanent resident of Spain.  I had accepted, that my life no longer existed in The UK.  I had accepted the advice I was given, by a Solicitor and others and understood the clear choice left for me, to heal the pain of the last five years.  I had to make my life count once again, take control of it and never allow anyone to control my very existence again.  To have someone, who you know very little about dominate your life, without you even knowing, is a hard thing to admit too.  After the denial, when the evidence was produced, of course, I had to accept what I could clearly see.

    Having Jamie and Natalee with us, has been a great source of comfort for me at least. They are a link to the past, but both of them are a positive bridge to my life in The UK. They were the real support, during inauspicious times.  They both were the friends who made me laugh, even through the worst situations.  They make up for the rubbish that we so definitely and absolutely left behind.  They made my transition to Spanish life, much easier to endure.  Going anywhere new on your own, can be tough, so having ready made friends with you, can only help of course.

    Today as I sit here writing, I feel much happier.  I have achieved all the steps necessary to be a permanent resident.  When I walk around the streets of Gran Alacant, I feel comfortable, at home and confident.  Only yesterday, as I walked into work three people passed the time of day, as they walked past and several others waved at me from their cars.  That was a real feeling of acceptance and self worth on my behalf. The people here are tremendously accepting of others, no matter who they are.  I have written before about the role the expat community have paid in helping us, but also others, in particular someone I work with, who has been a great source of inspiration and has gone out of her way to be there when we have needed it.

    The community spirit has won me over, for the first time in my life. GA has a population of around ten thousand, but actually feels a lot smaller.  There is a small village type atmosphere, which I am not used too, but that makes for a much better sense of commonality and neighbourhood. People here, genuinely want to help.  The expat nature of the area, can be clearly seen through the actions of others and the survival instinct of life as a foreigner living abroad.  

    Forging new friendships has been important in our success or not here.  I have made more attachments in the last five months than I could have ever imagined.  In fact I am making new bonds every day.  We have made some very close friendships, with some wonderful people.  These are the important ones, who help us maintain our life and give us reason after reason to stay in this harsh Country.  The people are everything. Spain is a beautiful Country, but without the people we have met, I have a feeling, we would probably not be here today.  Life in Spain, is nothing like it is in The UK.  Unless you retire with a fortune, you really have to spent time grafting hard, harder than I have ever done before.  That is unimportant to me, because grafting in a place you love, is much better than existing in a place you hate.

    So life today is good.  I am personally feeling very settled and happy finally.  I am looking forward to where life takes me now.  Don't get me wrong, not everything is fantastic, but the things that are not, can and will be ironed out.  I do find it difficult to accept what happened to me over the last year, but it has been easier to deal with, knowing that we live in a wonderful place, surrounded by amazing people.  Spain truely is home now.  I am glad the past, littered with the unscrupulous and psychotic are becoming ghosts, part of the debris left behind and feel sure, that wherever life takes us now, it can only be better than what went before!
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    Reply!

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    Had a few words of support back today from some very influential people.  I wanted to include a sentence from the letter:

    'Trustees do have duties and responsibilities to their charity, its supporters, its employees and beneficiaries, especially any vulnerable individuals. For this reason I am most concerned about the charity and its safeguarding policy.'

    ​Finally, true words spoken, by someone, who can actually clear up the mess, endured by many and made by a few!
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       Luke M Jones - 3 June 2016

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    Vote Leave on June 23!

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    Vote LEAVE on June 23rd. When you have other Heads of State interfering in a British democratic process, lies and misinformation and a bill of over 300 million pounds a week, paying for an unelected Commission, you know it's time to go!  As an expat, I vote for the common good, not my own selfish reasons! 
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    ​       Luke M Jones 3 June 2016
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    Ladies Day and June's Birthday!

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    Zest

    I like to pop into Zest some evenings after work.  It's starting to really hot up here in Spain, so a couple of ice cold beers, goes down a treat after working in a kitchen.  I had a nice conversation with Aunty Pam, as well as enjoying everyone's company at the bar.  It really does feel like my local pub, a home from home!
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    Zest had organised a Ladies Day for Junes Birthday,  There were games and an auction for the charity MABS.  I think if I remember rightly, Zest raised around 600€, although I had had a lot to drink by the time the total was announced.  Pam's boxes raised around 180€, by themselves. This bar does a lot of good work, for good charities and it shows.  It was packed to the rafters.  I met many new people, I hadn't seen before, as well as many I am already familiar with.  I also had time to sit down and talk to our neighbours Lorraine and Allan.  What a great welcoming couple they are!
    Yesterday, the 1st of June, was Ladies Day in The Square.  It was also June's Birthday.  June was the first expat we met when we moved to Spain.  She has always been a great source of encouragement and advice.  Speaking for myself, I will always hold June in high regard.  The advice she gave us, right at the beginning, has really set out the path for our life here.  I rarely listen to anyone, although June, I did take notice of and followed everything she said to the letter. People like June and many others, are the hub of the community and expat life. Without these people, people like myself, would have found it very difficult settling in and I can't thank her enough, for all she has done!
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    Jamie and myself were invited to Junes Birthday bash and would like to thank her for such a lovely day.  We dressed for Ladies Day in the appropriate way. It was a fun filled day, with the added bonus of raising money for charity, what on earth can be bad about that.

    I wanted to say a big thank you to everyone down at The Square, for making us feel at home.  Everyone we met on Junes big day, were an absolute pleasure to talk too. Expats and the community that surrounds them are true, genuine and special people. When you move anywhere, especially abroad, it can be a daunting process, so having such a support network of individuals, with knowledge and skills, learned from living on The Costa Blanca, is invaluable.  These people do not take from anyone, they are all givers, in every sense of the word.  If you ever need anything, you can always guarantee to find it, or advice in The Square.  An expat community is important, especially in a Country like Spain.  Without it, I would not have achieved all I have, since moving here.  They have been instrumental in our continued success in Spain. Keep up the good work, you all do.  I hope one day, we can be of help, for others who are in our position, starting out on a new journey, in this place, we now call home!

    Many Happy Returns June!