Reliving events that brought us to Spain - 'I am dismayed that these people are still in situ!'
So the mysterious Penny, the Manager, who isn't, who she seems. Someone who claims to be high up at Oxfam , a psychologist and probably a fantasist, encourages me and my partner to whistleblow, on the very organisation she is representing. Why? why the hell, would Penny want me to do that?
In Penny's words:
Believe me! I have absolutely no "qualms" on whistle blowing! I have done it on numerous occasions. And no doubt will probably do it on this occasion again!
Concerns of bullying towards Darrell are brought to the surface, after HR lie throughout a disciplinary. Relapse number three, brought about by inaction and lack of help from Oxfam!
The first signs of cracks in mine and Penny's relationship, begins to show, as her true intentions start to shine through; she isn't the person she pretends to be, she is probably a liar, playing a game, a game player, a sociopath, like the Manager who put us in the position we found ourselves in; dangerous, without empathy and no conscience!
'I am dismayed that these people are still in situ'
Penny's words are in light green script, mine are in dark blue! These are online messages, sent in real time, so the grammar, punctuation, will not be perfect! I have used single capital letters to keep the names of those involved confidential! I have also highlighted important sentences in red!
26/06/2015
You know what. I can't sleep, naturally. I wanted to say I'm proud we all stood up. I feel great sadness, I feel terribly old, but it doesn't matter. Doing the honourable thing, finally. Thanks for making us do this. I feel so strong right now, despite the worst experience of my life...x
Xxxx
Ok, I've dug too far. Spoke to a Solicitor friend. He said from what I said she is a Sociopath. I knew she was. He has said we should get out and deal with this from a distance. Can you guarantee our safety or not. I know this should not get out now. I know how serious it is. I am not going to say a thing. Just tell me if we should leave. This is a nightmare. Please just give me straight advice. We can leave today if we have too. It must be awful for you at Oxfam too. I am seriously worried for our wellbeing. A friend who works in HR, has also said to leave soon as.
Myself in all honesty? D will receive a disaplinary; he was involved in some if the inappropriate conversations that went on in his shop. You: she really doesn't have anything on you to suggest any grievances. So in short, if I were D; I'd be looking for another position, if u were you, I would stand my ground.
Ps. Have no concerns for me, she isn't strong/power/intelligent enough to take me on; she knows it, I know it; HR know it xx
The conversations are false as you know. He was bullied and you encouraged this . This is about removing us, it always was. Can't believe i trusted you!
So D will be fired, for what? x
What???? I'm confused? D won't be fired! But he will have to face a disciplinary! Probably a written/verbal warning! I assume. D is in bits over the bullying! Yes quite right fully so! But do you think he has the strength of character to deal with v and the other 2 if they remain in situ? I hope he does! But my concern is: he will feel further bullied! Ps sorry I missed your call; I was getting dressed. xxx
I need to phone quickly x
Penny:
Oxfam and the way this whole incident t has been handled has really surprised me, disappointed me to an extent. I still am struggling with the fact that 3 people are still in situ after a safe guarding breech had been made! X
Yeah be quick xx
The whistle blowing number is 00441865472120 or you can email: whistleblowing@oxfam.org.uk x
All the numbers are in there! It's changed and took a fair bit of digging to find this document. X
Now what can I disclose to Dave? I will wait until you've spoke. To me; before I Jo down and see him; but I will give H a quick call x
It's ok, I spoke to s. He told me D's safety would be protected. Thanks L x
Are you calmer and happier with that knowledge? Xx
Always calm Penny. Always trusted S and his integrity!
Good! X
Right now i feel like a manipulated vulnerable employee. No more games!
Bless you L, I really do feel for both of you! I'm shocked with how this has been allowed to continue! I'm disappointed and disgusted that people are still in situ! x
Luke:
Why do you want me to whistle blow on Oxfam. They are good people, and dealing with it!. I know you are disgusted, so am I, but my options are limited to this procedure! xs
I am concerned for what that guy told me, but I can not make assumptions, only take advice. Our safety is of importance atm. x
Why can't you whistleblow if u have concerns? x
Why? If you feel unhappy with the outcome of the investigation currently taking place, as your friend, I'd like to assume you that you will have every avenue open to you! You can't whistle blow,( I believe?) until the investigation has concluded. But to ensure that you are treated fairly, safely and with integrality. I know that you would offer me the same support! Hence my constant suggestion to involve your union. I am dismayed that these people are still in situ!!?!? I really do not understand how/why they are all still there?!? So in short, I just want to make sure that both if you are protected and covered! No stones left unturned, so to speak! I really don't trust V and would not be surprised if she pulled some dirty tricks? X
Penny:
Believe me! I have absolutely no "qualms" on whistle blowing! I have done it on numerous occasions. And no doubt will probably do it on this occasion again! X
I'm off to go and speak to Dave! X
I agree, but I have no firm evidence on V, that would be inappropriate. Since people just talk in riddles. I have been told what is their belief only. If we get past the riddles. it would be different x
I am not currently in post, so have no idea what is going on. If people are concerned they should deal with it. I am not a scape goat! x
If you believe myself or Jason are at risk, I would of course act x
Helen, is something wrong~? x
Just on the phone to D x
I asked him to phone. Concerned! x
Ok I am worried, do you need help? x
Why has B's email address been removed? x
No sorry I'm ok just got side tracked with customer D and an interview! Oh and D phoning. Xx
Beth has been removed from oxfam email? x
I do not want L taking my statement. Her whole report on D is inaccurate, all of it. This has to stop!
Police are ringing me in an hour. This ends now! x
28 June 2016
Relapse 3 in 3 months. The most dangerous ever. It is now the time to act. L was the closest yet to dying. JG got him through this. Where were Oxfam? Someone soon will die. Other people cleaning up the mess again. Last night was shocking, that this was left to happen again. It is criminal.
Ring me x
Penny's words are in light green script, mine are in dark blue! These are online messages, sent in real time, so the grammar, punctuation, will not be perfect! I have used single capital letters to keep the names of those involved confidential! I have also highlighted important sentences in red!
26/06/2015
You know what. I can't sleep, naturally. I wanted to say I'm proud we all stood up. I feel great sadness, I feel terribly old, but it doesn't matter. Doing the honourable thing, finally. Thanks for making us do this. I feel so strong right now, despite the worst experience of my life...x
Xxxx
Ok, I've dug too far. Spoke to a Solicitor friend. He said from what I said she is a Sociopath. I knew she was. He has said we should get out and deal with this from a distance. Can you guarantee our safety or not. I know this should not get out now. I know how serious it is. I am not going to say a thing. Just tell me if we should leave. This is a nightmare. Please just give me straight advice. We can leave today if we have too. It must be awful for you at Oxfam too. I am seriously worried for our wellbeing. A friend who works in HR, has also said to leave soon as.
Myself in all honesty? D will receive a disaplinary; he was involved in some if the inappropriate conversations that went on in his shop. You: she really doesn't have anything on you to suggest any grievances. So in short, if I were D; I'd be looking for another position, if u were you, I would stand my ground.
Ps. Have no concerns for me, she isn't strong/power/intelligent enough to take me on; she knows it, I know it; HR know it xx
The conversations are false as you know. He was bullied and you encouraged this . This is about removing us, it always was. Can't believe i trusted you!
So D will be fired, for what? x
What???? I'm confused? D won't be fired! But he will have to face a disciplinary! Probably a written/verbal warning! I assume. D is in bits over the bullying! Yes quite right fully so! But do you think he has the strength of character to deal with v and the other 2 if they remain in situ? I hope he does! But my concern is: he will feel further bullied! Ps sorry I missed your call; I was getting dressed. xxx
I need to phone quickly x
Penny:
Oxfam and the way this whole incident t has been handled has really surprised me, disappointed me to an extent. I still am struggling with the fact that 3 people are still in situ after a safe guarding breech had been made! X
Yeah be quick xx
The whistle blowing number is 00441865472120 or you can email: whistleblowing@oxfam.org.uk x
All the numbers are in there! It's changed and took a fair bit of digging to find this document. X
Now what can I disclose to Dave? I will wait until you've spoke. To me; before I Jo down and see him; but I will give H a quick call x
It's ok, I spoke to s. He told me D's safety would be protected. Thanks L x
Are you calmer and happier with that knowledge? Xx
Always calm Penny. Always trusted S and his integrity!
Good! X
Right now i feel like a manipulated vulnerable employee. No more games!
Bless you L, I really do feel for both of you! I'm shocked with how this has been allowed to continue! I'm disappointed and disgusted that people are still in situ! x
Luke:
Why do you want me to whistle blow on Oxfam. They are good people, and dealing with it!. I know you are disgusted, so am I, but my options are limited to this procedure! xs
I am concerned for what that guy told me, but I can not make assumptions, only take advice. Our safety is of importance atm. x
Why can't you whistleblow if u have concerns? x
Why? If you feel unhappy with the outcome of the investigation currently taking place, as your friend, I'd like to assume you that you will have every avenue open to you! You can't whistle blow,( I believe?) until the investigation has concluded. But to ensure that you are treated fairly, safely and with integrality. I know that you would offer me the same support! Hence my constant suggestion to involve your union. I am dismayed that these people are still in situ!!?!? I really do not understand how/why they are all still there?!? So in short, I just want to make sure that both if you are protected and covered! No stones left unturned, so to speak! I really don't trust V and would not be surprised if she pulled some dirty tricks? X
Penny:
Believe me! I have absolutely no "qualms" on whistle blowing! I have done it on numerous occasions. And no doubt will probably do it on this occasion again! X
I'm off to go and speak to Dave! X
I agree, but I have no firm evidence on V, that would be inappropriate. Since people just talk in riddles. I have been told what is their belief only. If we get past the riddles. it would be different x
I am not currently in post, so have no idea what is going on. If people are concerned they should deal with it. I am not a scape goat! x
If you believe myself or Jason are at risk, I would of course act x
Helen, is something wrong~? x
Just on the phone to D x
I asked him to phone. Concerned! x
Ok I am worried, do you need help? x
Why has B's email address been removed? x
No sorry I'm ok just got side tracked with customer D and an interview! Oh and D phoning. Xx
Beth has been removed from oxfam email? x
I do not want L taking my statement. Her whole report on D is inaccurate, all of it. This has to stop!
Police are ringing me in an hour. This ends now! x
28 June 2016
Relapse 3 in 3 months. The most dangerous ever. It is now the time to act. L was the closest yet to dying. JG got him through this. Where were Oxfam? Someone soon will die. Other people cleaning up the mess again. Last night was shocking, that this was left to happen again. It is criminal.
Ring me x
The more I look back at these events, the more angry I become. Someone, who works in Oxfam, a friend, someone who had a 'mysterious job', that I certainly didn't know about, was encouraging me to whistleblow on an organisation that she dedicated her life to. I just don't understand why?
She admitted she didn't trust or like our Area Manager, saying she would probably pull 'Dirty Tricks', in order to succeed in her mission; whatever that was.
The inaction had left myself and my partner in a vulnerable state; ending with my third relapse. People were allowing three bullies to remain in situ, in charge of vulnerable volunteers, who were equally at risk
Importantly, a safeguarding breach had been made, yet nothing was being done!
Advice, both legally and from helplines had confirmed once again, that 'sociopathy' was at play, and it was important for myself and my partner to protect ourselves!
