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    ....and chill!

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    Anyone who knows me well enough, understands the amount of stress I have been under lately. I work up to sixty hours a week, no longer smoke, hardly ever drink and have very little time to myself. Don't get me wrong, I am loving my life, but sometimes I just need to relax.

    Cue friends and colleagues Jules and Angela...

    Last week I was able to take a brief respite from the pressures around me and have a drink or two in the company of Jules and Angela. A few hours of chatting, a gorgeous meal and a moderate amount of alcohol, enough to make me feel a bit merry at least!

    I haven't had such a chilled time in ages and it really brought home to me how lucky I am, to be surrounded by so many good people, with no agenda or ulterior motives. Those closest in the past were not always the best lets just say, so it is refreshing to meet genuine, demonstrative and positive people. I have had many ups and downs in Portsmouth and it hasn't always been an easy ride, but my life could have been a whole lot worse....Here's to friendship!
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    Do The Right Thing!

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    After a tiring weekend of work, today I was at Cancer Research, doing what I love best, raising money for good causes. The day started off well and I got on restocking the electrical department, something I do regularly on a Monday morning. As lunch time approached I popped out into the high street to buy a sandwich and carry out a few errands. Despite working hard all week, I find my time at Cancer Research relaxing and a bit of a stress reliever, but not today!

    Whilst out for lunch, I popped into a high street shop to buy a book. As I browsed at the rear, I heard a commotion, shouting and screaming coming from the entrance, so I moved closer, trying to hear what was going on. I saw two young girls, no more that eighteen years old, cowering by the desk, as a man shouted abuse in their direction. He was yelling expletives, talking in a derogatory way, about the girls appearance, making it very clear what he wanted to do to them. Clearly the man was unhinged, on drugs or worse, so seeing how distressed the girls were, I walked over to try and get the man out of the shop.

    By the time I got to them, one of the girls was in floods of tears, as the man smacked her hard on her back. Firmly I asked the guy to leave, at which point he turned his attention towards me, lashing out, swearing and calling me a number of different names; nothing I couldn't handle. Once again I asked him to leave and moved closer, trying to usher him out of the door. Eventually he was escorted out by staff as I stood between him and the girls and the Police were phoned.

    I continued shopping and made my way back to Cancer Research, making sure the girls were OK before I went and told them to stay put until the Police arrived. In front of me I saw the man being questioned by security at the entrance to The Cascades Shopping Centre. He spotted me walking towards him and began yet another tirade of screeching. As I travelled past, he turned and spat square in my face. I asked the security guards to phone the Police and make sure they held him until they arrived. He seemed like a monster, full of hate and anger and a danger to the public.

    A little later, I had a visit from an Officer at Cancer Research, who took a quick statement. He explained the man had mental health issues and should have been out in town with an escort, but managed to get away. His own Mother was also his designated carer and was also finding it difficult to keep him under control. At eighty years old she was no longer able to look after him. The Officer assured me he was going to try and get his Mum and him help, asking me whether I wanted to press charges. Well obviously he pulled at my heart strings and I said no, as long as he gets the help he needs and we left it there.

    I have often seen situations where a person is being abused in public and have intervened on occasion, or found someone in authority to deal with the incident. I am amazed at how people can just walk away when someone is in trouble; as human beings we have a duty to look out for others and do what we can to help. There is so much violence on the streets today, it is up to the public to be vigilant. Police numbers are falling and the amount of money put into mental health care has been slashed, so there will inevitably be many more such occurrences in future. As an individual I have always helped others, whether through charity work, mentoring or just offering an open door, when someone is in need. I will always be there if I can, as all of us should be. If we do the right thing, the World will be a much better place!
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    Asian Adventure - Last Day In Korea, 10 May 2019

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    The 10th May is our last day in South Korea. Darrell's flight to Singapore and Australia departs early tomorrow morning with our scheduled flight to Siem Reap leaving at 7.15pm. It's going to be a long day, so all of us want to make the most of the time we have left.

    Suffering with a hangover Darrell and I got up at midday, the first time we had actually slept in during this vacation. My Aunt was spending the day in the Demilitarized Zone, between North and South Korea, leaving Darrell and I a precious few hours together before his departure.

    We decided to go for a walk in Namsan National Park, not far from our hotel. We spent time chatting about the future and discussing just where our lives our at the moment. Neither of us were sure about the direction we are heading in, especially when we are living so far apart. Darrell's Mother continues to confound her Doctors and is remarkably stable considering her Cancer diagnosis. At the moment we will both continue to do what is best for our respective families. We were able to confirm our intentions to see each other once again in October, when Darrell flies to the UK, but for now we would just enjoy a beautiful afternoon in the park; nothing stressful or taxing, just a chilled day in beautiful surroundings, the like of which we will probably never see again.

    Namsan Park was glimmering in the heat of the day, the sun shining intensely. A group of young Korean boys were practicing Tiquando on a stage erected in the entrance to this popular tourist destination. The numerous waterfalls and features, that were situated all over this oriental landscape were a welcome respite from the heat of the day. Sitting, talking, reminiscing about times both good and bad, in a setting so picturesque and breathtaking added an extra dimension to our conversation. When you are in the company of such resplendency, your problems don't seem so bad after all!

    A short walk from the National Park, towards Myeongdong we visited another cat cafe, popular here in Korea. Darrell and I have always had a love of cats, so it was appropriate that we should spend another hour or so surrounded by more feline friends. The cats here were far more active than they were at the 'Hello Cat Cafe,' we had visited earlier in the week. It was clear this space was designed to cater for the needs of cats, and not those who were coming to visit. There were plenty of toys and apparatus to mimic a more natural environment and the resident cats seemed happy and relaxed.

    We both sat down at a table in the corner, with a cold cup of lemon juice and waited for the cats to come over. These animals really are the best medicine, when you are feeling down and stressed. With Darrell returning home and Aunt Trisha and I boarding yet another flight, my anxiety levels were high. Enjoying time away from the busy city of Seoul, protected from the pollution, imposing buildings and  thronging crowds is a tonic; you can see why so many people enjoy these wonderfully welcoming places and understand why they are so sought after. This has been the most memorable aspect of my time in South Korea, a memory I will cherish for ever!

    In the evening my Aunt treated us both to a meal at Calice Italian Bistro, once again in Myeongdong. The restaurant was at the bottom of a large five star hotel and was tastefully furnished, overlooking the main strip. The large bi-fold doors at the front of the building were open, letting in a soothing gentle breeze, perfect for cooling down after the blisteringly hot day. First impressions were good, as we sat at our table, waiting to be served. Aunt Trisha was wearing a brooch that Darrel's Mother had given her as a present, which went perfectly with her outfit. The ambience was impeccable, for our last day in Korea.

    We were served by a young Korean girl, who was clearly on her first day at the restaurant and seemed to be rather nervous, calling over her bosses several times, to check her order. She was however polite, like every other Korean we had encountered. The Chef and owner spoke perfect English and recommended different dishes for us to try. I chose beef with Spinach and truffles; not the biggest of portions, but it tasted fantastic.

    Once again we took the time to talk about what lies ahead and we were all hopeful for the future. It is difficult having to traverse the globe in order to see your partner, but it does make for a more interesting life. We have both been able to see places that we would have never visited under normal circumstances and met some wonderful characters on our journey. Korea has been an eye opener for all of us, but more so for me, because I actually liked the place and enjoyed every aspect of my time here. When we first arrived, I thought Seoul would be just like every other city we have seen before, but actually it was a lot more than that. The cultural explosion that greeted us was unforgettable, I have been so impressed by every detail of life here. The architecture, art and food have all been out of this World. Both Darrell and I agreed to return to this less explored part of the planet again one day, but until then we can at least take the memories of an exceptional, extraordinary and evocative five day expedition home with us, memories that will never fade, enduring impressions, like time itself!

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    The Envelope!

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    The sun was just disappearing from view, the sky looked fierce as a deep red hue flooded the horizon, filling every inch of blue, as far as the eye could see. I yawned, just briefly, as I looked at the clock on the monitor in front of my face; I had just five minutes left, of a long tiring day. In truth I wasn't looking forward to the trek home, but with payday a week away, a taxi was out of the question.

    I ran through the now quiet isles of the shop, heading to the staff quarters at the back; opening my locker I gathered my things, signed out and quickly left. All I could think about was sleep, oh how I needed my soft comfy bed. With another larger, longer yawn, I was outside. The red sky had turned to black and the street lamps were just flickering into view, illuminating my evening walk through the unlit lanes and into the narrow terraced streets beyond.  After the warmth of the day, there was a distinct chill in the air, as I entered the graffiti filled footpath, which offered a shortcut home. Normally I was OK with this route, although always had my wits about me. One never knew who might be behind one. The lanes are dark, occasional undesirables loiter in the shadows and small groups of youths ride up and down on their bikes, shouting that urban speak only they understand. Tonight I felt nervous and rightly so!

    I was doing that 'power walk' thing that is supposed to help with keeping fit - always trying to lose weight unsuccessfully, when I heard footsteps behind. They were loud and sounded very much like a person wearing heels, clicking faster and faster, racing up behind me - I stopped, they stopped too. Sharply I looked around, there was no one there. Surely I couldn't have imagined it? Maybe I did? Once again, I started to walk, this time slower, gathering my thoughts, so I could hear any noise that followed my steps. Sure enough there were those heals again. Before I could pause once more, I was knocked unconscious to the ground. With a sharp whack to the back of my head, I must have collapsed, falling flat on my face, the bruises of which, I still have today!

    "Hello Lovey, I told you I would be back!"

    I was laying flat on my back in the middle of what looked like a field. As I looked upwards I could see her menacing face, glaring back at me. Through the muddle and confusion, I shook my head, this had to be a dream. After another shudder, this time more vigorous, I could finally make out her ginger hair, as she leaned ever closer to my face. The alcohol on her breath was unbearable; this was Verruca Almond at her worst, she was very much alive and kicking, angrier than ever. Indignation, vexation, fury and uncontrollable rage written in  the expression on her face, that vein at the side of her temple pulsating with every grimace and her claw like nails heading towards my throat.

    "Verruca, VERRUCA! Stop, what the hell do you think you are doing?" I yelled!

    With all the strength I could muster I jolted upright, headbutting her hard on the forehead, knocking her to the ground. As she fell backwards, so did I, ending up where I started. The both of us, laying there, me shouting expletives, rubbing my head in agony and her laughing madly, hysterically, insane, like the woman I knew she was, must have been a sight for sore eyes, but luckily there was no one else around, just us, sat in the middle of nowhere, me more puzzled than ever!

    "Clearly I didn't teach you well enough, you bloody fool. Didn't you learn anything from licking knives?" she screamed at the top of her voice!

    "What the f*ck are you waffling about" I replied, still rubbing my brow, smarting from the throbbing pain. "Why don't you just phone like any other normal person, instead of attacking me and beating me up like a rabid dog!" I don't mind telling you, I completely lost the plot. I wouldn't usually dream of talking to her like this. She is a sociopath after all and the consequences could be dire. Biting my tongue, I refrained from saying anything else, waiting for her reply!

    'You know me my babes, anything for the drama and anyway, I can't be seen anywhere near your house. I've been on the run for a year now and it's time to get the envelope back' she explained! Confused, I rubbed my eyes!

    "What envelope V, what are you talking about?' I asked. Now my memory isn't what it used to be and a lot has happened in the last year, so I had completely forgotten about the paperwork she had given me to keep safe and anyway I hadn't seen it since she was last in my company. As I continued to rack my brain, I suddenly realised what she was talking about, but not before Verruca, sat up and knocked me square in the face with her fist. 'Jesus Christ, what the hell was that for?' I cried, after I hit the deck one more time!

    "To teach you a lesson, boyo...Nobody plays games with me!"

    "I wasn't playing a game, I genuinely forgot, it's been ages since I saw you last and I do have a life you know,' I shouted. "Touch me again and I'm outta here!" Verruca, just shook her head and repeated her claim!

    "I need the envelope, it's the only thing that can save us now, without it, we are both gonners!"

    "Both!!!! don't bring me into it. I'll get you the envelope and then that's us over. I am not getting involved in your games anymore!" Verruca looked upwards, her shoulders began to shake up and down, laughter flowed from her mouth, as she slapped the ground with her hand!"

    "Oh but you are involved. The day you accepted that little 'gift' was the day you signed your life away. You belong to me now, so don't try any funny business. I know all about you, we are in this until the end and that's coming sooner than you think!"

    My heart missed a beat, I gulped deeply, realising I was done for; this was one situation I couldn't get out of. Not knowing what to do, I just nodded my head and got up, brushing off the dirt and debris from my clothes, as I finally stood up straight. Verruca, was still on the floor, a smirk crossed her face, followed by a wink, as she laid back ever so slightly, supported by her hands. Everything seemed 'matter of fact' and 'normal' to V, her demeanor cool, calm and collected; she was truly evil!

    "I'll be in touch over the next few days, make sure you keep that file on you at all times, now get out of my sight!" With that she was up on her feet and gone, leaving me standing there aghast, exhausted, not knowing what to do!

    The walk home was scary, I looked over my shoulder all the way. The slightest noise made me jump, my heart beating faster and faster as I finally reached home. I eventually opened the door, after dropping my keys trying to insert them into the lock; shaking I was inside. Locking the door tightly behind me, I just fell to the floor, clasping my head in my hands, stamping my feet on the carpet, frustratingly unable to see past the trouble now swirling around me. It was starting all over again and there was nothing I could do to stop it!

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    Asian Adventure - Birthday at Bukchon!

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    It felt wonderful waking up in Seoul on my Birthday. Pulling back the curtains in the lounge of our apartment, the sun was out and it looked like we were in for another hot day. Darrell was already awake, coming over as I walked out the door, giving me a card and a 'Korean Cat,' a cuddly toy he had bought from Seoul tower a day or so before. As I slowly awoke, still tired from the previous days walking, I sat down and read the many messages I had received from back home in the UK. Today I was 48 years old, approaching my fifties and happy to be spending the day with my husband and Aunt, doing the things I wanted to do.
    With a love of history that goes back to my school days thirty four years, I chose to begin my Birthday with a tour of Bukchon Hanock Village. This six hundred year old settlement is the best example of a traditional working urban environment in Seoul today and was an absolute dream to visit.

    Seoul is a large sprawling city; it's modern, gleaming streets and imposing architecture can be seen wherever you go, each building appearing bigger and better than the last. Imagine my surprise when I got off the metro underground system and began my short walk to this historic site and discovered an altogether different, customary, characterful and calming terrain, situated slap bang in the middle of this amazingly vibrant city.

    The approach to Bukchon is littered with small cafe's, shops full of Korean handicrafts and memorable architectural delights, including a beautiful Catholic Cathedral, prominently situated at the forefront of this traditional buddhist community. I was aghast by the level of care and commitment shown by the Korean residents, in preserving their heritage. This is a functioning village, people still live and work here. As an observer, looking into their lives I was grateful for their welcome, as we walked around the narrow streets, taking photographs and looking in awe at history in the making.

    Many of those visiting Bukchon were wearing traditional Korean dress and most were happy to have their photographs taken, as they went about their business. Politely and with dignity, they made way for the tourists that flock to this Korean Landmark. You could see how proud they were of their village and the wider city of Seoul, showing just how far these people had come since the Korean war in the 1950s. The contrast between old and modern is stark. As one meanders around Bukchon, one is conscious of being in the middle of a modern metropolis, with high skyscrapers framing the landscape beyond. This is a place I will always hold in my memories and look forward to seeing again in the future!

    After a good few hours of siteseeing, we had a traditional Korean lunch near the village, which was delicious, as all the food has been in this country. Once again I ate with chopsticks and am persevering with them everyday on this holiday. I will never be an expert eating with these utensils but at least I have tried. I suppose today was the day I truly fell in love with Korea and really want to see more of this cultural gem.

    After Bukchon we went to Changdeokgung Palace, much larger than Deoksugung Palace we visited yesterday. Changdeokgung is probably the most loved of all Royal residences and is visited daily by thousands of people. I was astonished by how big this complex is. Building after building, perfectly preserved and painted in traditional Korean colours. Interestingly only thirty percent of the original buildings remain in tact, but what there is, is breathtaking. In 1997 this site was added to the UNESCO World Heritage List and it is easy to see why. Reporting their decision to include Changdeokgung, the UNESCO Committee stated the Palace was an 'outstanding example of Far Eastern palace architecture and garden design" being exceptional because the buildings are "integrated into and harmonized with the natural setting' and adapted 'to the topography and retaining indigenous tree cover!'

    This trip to Korea has opened my eyes on many levels. I never really knew much about this country prior to my visit, but today as I write this blog entry I am fully versed in the outstanding history that oozes around every city block, at least in Seoul. Changdeokgung Palace is a fine example of oriental design and inginuity. I have to keep reminding myself that this structure was built in the 14th century and looks as perfect today as it did then. A trip here is a trip to the heart of the Korean nation!

    In the evening after a few hours rest we went out for a few drinks, stumbling across another Korean landmark, this time contemporary in construction and rather modern in its concept. An unused motorway has been turned into a city park with landscaped canal, waterfalls and places to sit, take in the city skyline and enjoy a relaxing hour or so; a project that looked towards the future. It was very strange seeing this popular attraction in such a busy metropolitan setting, but was yet another testimony to the creativity of Koreans.

    Just a few minutes away was an English pub - The Shakespeare, serving rather expensive craft beer in a typically British setting. On the surface, this seemed like a popular destination, with businessmen and visitors alike enjoying the ambience and winding down after a busy day. Although we were happy to sit and chat for a while, we moved on to a more lively bar, a few yards down the busy thoroughfare. After several half pints of stella, costing the same as a pint in the UK, we were done for the evening, making our way home through the still thronging streets with a brief stopover at McDonalds.

    This was a Birthday like no other and one I shall remember for many years to come. I really couldn't have asked for more than spending my time in Seoul, surrounded by history and the ones I love. This is a day I still dream about, remembering with fondness the experiences I shared, a day that couldn't have been more perfect, relaxed, thoughtful, without stress and looking forward to the year ahead!

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