​The most important thing to remember, when you are spending long periods apart from your partner, is that you are not alone. There are other people in your position, many of whom suffer far more than you. I have learned after four months to cope with my situation. This is in part due to my own mechanisms, but it is also through following guidance from others.
​If I were to give advice to someone living apart from their partner, I can only say how I manage, what works best for me, but of course everyone is different. Firstly have a good network of friends; we are talking quality here, not quantity. So far, so good for me. The people who are close to me are fabulous and make everyday easier. Secondly, do not phone, skype or message your partner everyday; all this does, is make the whole experience more painful. Currently I speak to Darrell, maybe once a week, even less sometimes. With your other half away, you still have your own life to lead and that does not include him or her for a temporary time. Live your life, normally! Thirdly get out, as often as you can. Sitting in four walls, does not help you; it just makes you think about your situation more. Keeping oneself active and occupied also helps to divert attention into other, more productive tasks! Lastly, get a pet. This really does help with the loneliness. I would not be without my two cats.
Everyone does have their own ways of coping in difficult situations. Many of you may disagree with the methods I use. In all honesty, for me they work pretty well. However you manage and survive, the one thing that you should always hold on too, is, the situation you are in, is only temporary. This realisation, makes muddling through, that much easier!
