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Yesterday, I was writing my blog as usual, when suddenly I realised something wasn't quite right, in the grammatical sense. When referring to Darrell and I in a sentence, I would often write 'Darrell and myself.' preferring the way it sounded, always believing 'Darrell and I,' or 'My husband and I,' to be a little pretentious. Well I decided to look up this way of referring to two people online; checking my grammar; my stomach sunk. I have actually been using this phrase incorrectly; it doesn't make sense. Today I have a lot of work to do, correcting quite a few mistakes. Although the phrase 'Darrell and myself,' is technically incorrect, I have also researched this subject on the net and discovered it is widely used informally; informal English if you like. A little bit of a get out clause for me, but nevertheless I still need to address some of my more erudite entries. and give myself a slap around the wrists!"Myself" is used to refer back to yourself if you've already mentioned yourself in a sentence. Like, "I gave the award for best fisherman to myself", as opposed to "I gave ... to me." It is also used to make clear or emphasize that you performed the action and not someone else. "I caught the fish myself" means I did it, not someone else, and I had no or minimal help.
"Myself" is also sometimes used as an alternate or polite form of "I" or "me". I think this is really grammatically incorrect, but it's fairly common. So "John and myself decided ..." would be acceptable, at least in informal speech. Jay from Michigan, USA, at English Language Learners, Stack Exchange.
The idea of 'informal English,' crops up again and again. Like most things in life, English is evolving. When writing a blog, I believe one should write as one speaks; informally if you so wish. I don't particularly want to write in a way, that I don't feel comfortable with. However I have to acknowledge the proper, formal, acceptable way of referring to myself and a friend in a sentence.Digging into the topic a little deeper, myself is what's called a reflexive pronoun. That can be hard to remember, but just think about looking into a mirror and seeing your reflection. You'd say, “I see myself in the mirror.” You see your reflection, and myself is a reflexive pronoun.
Other reflexive pronouns include himself, herself, yourself, itself, and themselves. A reflexive pronoun is always the object of a sentence; it can never be the subject. Grammar Girl has talked about it before, but a subject is the one doing something in a sentence, and the object is the one having something done to it. If I step on Squiggly, I am the subject and Squiggly is the object.
You would never say, “Myself stepped on Squiggly,” so you would also never say, “Aardvark and myself stepped on Squiggly.”
Another case where it is correct to use myself is when you are both the subject and the object of a sentence. For example, “I see myself playing marimbas,” or, “I'm going to treat myself to a mud bath.” In both of these cases you are the object of your own action, so myself is the right word to use. By Mignon Fogarty, Grammar Girl at quickanddirtytips.comYesterday whilst working at LoungeD, I was discussing my literary dilemma, with a couple of customers. Luckily for me, they happened to understand what I was talking about. By the end of the conversation we all agreed formal was best; so in future that is the way I will write my words, when discussing my partner and I, no matter how much I dislike it! Part of blogging is about learning; this has indeed been a process of understanding. I may well enjoy writing, but I am not a Professor of Grammar; I'll leave that to the experts!
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I've had one of those mornings today, dealing with official paperwork yet again. Spain is famous for the amount of documentation you have to carry around with you. At home, Darrell and I have a rather large file, full of paperwork that we have to keep updated and in good order; certificates for this, that and the other; identity cards, contracts and health and security numbers. Today we added another three certificates to that folder, necessary for Darrell to get his new Spanish Driving License.
Today it was a quick trip to the Padron Office in Gran Alacant. We showed the gentleman behind the desk our identity cards and new housing contract. His English, though not great, like our Spanish, was enough for us and him to understand each other. After half an hour, we had a new Padron certificate, that I could take to the bank and use to change my address. Waiting in the queue outside Sabadell was an altogether harder, time consuming task. As usual, there was only one person behind the information desk and a disproportionate number of clients waiting to be seen. This is always the case at Sabadell and they really need to get to grips with their customer service. Customers are waiting far too long.
Darrell now has all the documentation required, to switch his British license to a Spanish one. As an Australian national, with a European license, the process he has to follow, will be more complicated than most. We remain hopeful that he can just swap his British license over, If not it will be a series of driving lessons and a written and practical test; not ideal!
If you hate the amount of paperwork you have to do yourself, spare a thought for lil old me, who married an Ozzie and decided to move to Europe. Nothing could possibly be as complicated; if it is, you are not doing it right!
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The old railway line was full to bursting with blackberry bushes, laden with plump, ripe fruit. Negotiating ones way through the bramble and stinging nettles, was always a difficulty; arms stretched out, hands filling an old ice cream container full of produce, on the way to the village. Growing up on the outskirts of Titchfield was idyllic. This was my families home; small, traditional, oak beamed Tudor cottages, centuries old church and memories from a childhood, spent peacefully playing in open fields, as far as the eye could see. I always enjoyed the gentle stroll, past ones school, under the Victorian arched bridge, along the old railway line, long since gone; stopping at the local Public House opposite Titchfield Abbey. This is a journey I haven’t undertaken for many years; my life too busy, taking me to far away places, a life time away from the village, where I grew up.
My brother, Mother, Father and I would sit outside ‘The Fisherman’s Rest;’ Dad would have a pint of cider and my Mother, who never drank, a schweppes tonic water, with a slice of lemon. My brother and I were happy with a bottle of coke and a packet of Golden Wonder; In front of us, a panorama; a vista like no other. Here was situated, the glorious historic Abbey of the White Connons; a large country house visited by Charles I and frequented by Shakespeare; writing sonnets from the battlements, towering above the village below. Averting ones eyes to the left, Abbey Gardens came into view. As a family, we would frequently walk up to the estate, where we could pick our own fruit and vegetables, often eating more than we harvested; face covered in sweet sticky strawberry juice, fingers a deep shade of red, clothes stained, shoes muddy. This was our pitstop, just a short walk away, from the place I still call home, even to this day.
Today, our family no longer live in this characterful Hampshire Hamlet; an oasis surrounded by urban sprawl. As a child my Great Granny Light, lived in the centre, in a cottage many hundreds of years old. I remember fondly visiting her, sat on her knee. She had a hairy chin, that tickled my face, as she kissed my cheeks. Great Granny would always produce a pressed glass bottle from the kitchen. I swear it contained alcohol; a little nip of something, even for me, as a very young boy; I recall the taste distinctly and have never savoured it since. Great Granny’s lounge was small, dark, cosy and beamed, hunting scenes on the wall; tiny cottage glass windows, reflecting the dancing light of the fire; warm and inviting. This was Granny’s house, part of a local community, where everyone, knew each other; neighbours passing the time of day and children playing in the village square.
A short distance away lived my Great Aunty Peggy, in a tiny terraced house; Edwardian in style, outside toilet, perfectly manicured back garden, always clean and tidy. When Granny died, we would visit Peggy often, especially on Carnival days. Titchfield Carnival was colourful, vibrant, encompassing everyone who lived in the village. Taking place in October each year, we would stand outside our Aunties house; warm woolen mittens, scarf, bobble hat, waving a Union flag. Peggy would bring out home made cakes, orange juice and an extra layer of clothing in the winter chill. Fireworks and a bonfire would end the festivities, acrid smell in the air; finally retiring inside, falling asleep, curled up on the sofa, covered in a rug from the bed.
Titchfield has changed a lot by all accounts; not the village of my youth. Memories of this period grow vaguer, as time passes quickly by. I am grateful for my upbringing, surrounded by a large family and friends; I am thoughtful recalling events, when others have forgotten; I am hopeful I will return one day, to visit my old hunting ground, as I like generations before me, tread the cobbled streets of Titchfield once again