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    Homeward Bound!

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    Just one week to go now, before I return back to the UK for a while. It has been quite frantic here over the last few days; there are so many people to see when I set foot back home, that I have been busy making arrangements. Let me first say, how much I am looking forward to returning to my old stomping ground; it really has been a long time coming, far too long in my book. It is about time I reconnect with family and friends I haven't seen for a long time, all of us have a lot to say to one another.

    The last few months have not been the best for me it has to be said. Options have changed on an almost daily basis, as we streamlined our life to take account of our long term goals. Just when we thought things were going in the right direction, circumstances have served to cause more anxiety and stress, putting plans on hold for a future date. 

    Darrell and I have always been rather spontaneous, rarely planning our life in any formal context, preferring the thrill of events shaping our future. Until recently we have never really had any issues with this carefree outlook, but of course times change and at our age, we have to reign ourselves in from time to time. The ideals we have are still firmly on our agenda, but we have had to revise our timetable, taking account of the time scale and external factors involved.

    On the 25th May I fly to the UK, leaving Darrell behind in Spain, staying with friends. By the time I return we should be more settled in our surroundings, knowing a little bit more about our immediate future, which at the moment remains fluid. We have no set plans in place to deal with what comes next, except we will be staying in Spain. I had thought about making a permanent move back to the United Kingdom, to resettle in the short term. After investigating this course of action further, I discovered it would not be the most practical option. I have lived outside of Britain for about two and a half years now, consequently I have lost most of my rights to reside in my country of birth. This does seem rather unfair to me; I am no longer entitled to state help in any sense, including health care and benefits, so would be on my own.

    For now, our financial situation will dictate what both of us do in the future. Darrell is still working full time, with an extremely understanding company in Alicante. They have been nothing but supportive at this time. I have been less lucky, still not working here at the moment, although have an offer of a job when I return at the beginning of July, from someone who has been instrumental in helping us through this difficult period. We are both lucky we have met some truly wonderful people since we came to Spain, individuals who have stepped up to the mark, giving us options in Gran Alacant, without them, we would have probably moved back to the UK, despite the difficulties involved; I couldn't really ask for more right now!

    Today I have got more arrangements to make with friends before I leave next Friday. I have a lot of plans while I am staying on the south coast of England and want to fit in as much as I can; I am going to have a busy time that's for sure. I will be glad to be away from this place for a bit; testing times call for radical solutions, that's where we stand today; on the brink of something different, new and untested. See you next week Britain, can't wait!
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    Rab's World!

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    "If I knew then what I know now....I'd probably still find a way to screw it up!"

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    Rab's World!

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    "In have to exercise in the morning, before my brain figures out what the hell my body is doing!"

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    Rab's World!

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    "A three year old boy examined his testicles, while taking a bath; 'Mum' he asked, 'are these my brains?' 'Not yet' she replied!"

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    Wedding Book!

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    I'm nearly at the end of sorting out a generation of paperwork and documents. Today I came across our Wedding Book, made by Melissa King for our big day. As I continue to remember the events that shaped our life together, I thought it would be appropriate to share the comments from this day, with the readers of 'Roaming Brit.'

    Our Wedding was a long time coming, finally allowed after the British Government legalized same sex marriage in 2013. We did have a 'Rite of Blessing' in 1998, which took place in a local Quaker Church in London Road, Southampton, but it wasn't the Wedding we wanted. Changing times, equal rights and willpower would finally grant our wish!

    I do look back to this day in 2015 with fondness; in truth I am quite a sentimental  person. Although I have very little baggage left, from our time together as a couple today, I am more than happy to carry around the memories I have; photo's are all I need to be happy; the other stuff, things and collections just held me back as a person. I quite like the idea of travelling light now, it grows on me more and more each day! The only clobber I have left, is a rather large selection of blog entries, personal notes and writing, neatly stored away on the internet, taking up no space; at least Darrell's happy!
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    Monday!

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    Had a fantastic afternoon at Rogers yesterday, spent with some truly good friends. Darrell and I have had a lot on our minds lately, so it felt good to finally relax for a bit. It seems we have a lot of new adventures ahead of us in Spain, something I look forward to. Next week I am heading back to Britain for a while, reconnecting with family and friends, many of whom I haven't seen for many years. It is reassuring to know, I can return to Gran Alacant, with a weight of problems off my mind. It's amazing what a few drinks and a chat with those close can do. For once I slept a little more soundly last night!
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