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    Family Day!

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    This Sunday I had been given a personal day off from work, the first one in a long time. To be honest I have never really liked Sundays anyway and would rather be at work, so it was strange not being sat behind a till. After working at the Newcome on Saturday night, I hadn't planned to do anything the next day, except have a lay in and relax, which is a rare thing for me. True to form, I woke up on Sunday morning, as early as ever, ready to start the day!
    It was another horrible day outside; lately it hasn't stopped raining, just like it used to, the last time I lived in the UK at this time of year. I don't know why I am surprised, but I had gotten used to the Spanish seasons, so this constant rain is rather a shock to the system and if I am honest playing havoc with my arthritis that had all but disappeared when I lived in Gran Alacant!

    I popped into Fratton with my Aunt and Cousins, where we bought the ingredients for Sunday lunch, that I had agreed to cook a few days earlier!
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    After sitting down watching a film, I spent the evening cooking a roast dinner....Proper roast potatoes cooked in beef dripping, roast pork and vegetables. It tasted pretty good if I do say so myself!

    As we approach Christmas, I am looking forward to the festivities more than I have done for many years. Like the impending Yuletide, spending time with family on a Sunday is not something I am used too. As a child I used to sit down to lunch with my Brother and Parents, but we did it as a small unit and rarely with extended family and friends. Living at my Aunts house I am experiencing a very different side of life, quite foreign in nature, but one I like and have accepted better than I could have expected. Living here has also taught me much about survival under the most strenuous of circumstances!

    I suppose Darrell and I were very similar to my Aunt. We would always have people in and out of our home on a regular basis and rarely got a moments peace. There were other periods when we also kept ourselves very much to ourselves, especially when we lived in Spain. We chose not to have close friends in Gran Alacant, because of our past experiences, living in the UK. We passed judgement on others based on our own topsey turvy life, preferring to keep everyone at arms length. My life was all the poorer for the distance we kept, but it has also made me appreciate the things I have today.

    I rarely get time to myself, except maybe when I am blogging, like today, but I am happy with that; I enjoy having friends and family around me these days. I am content cooking a Sunday roast and comfortable living my life around children for the first time ever. Watching my Cousins grow is probably the most special part of my time in Portsmouth. Bonding with all of my family has been a fulfilling experience and I am sure there will be many more occasions we can enjoy each others company. First and foremost I am here for my Mother and Father at a difficult time, but I am also here to rekindle my relationships with those close, who possibly understand me more than my parents. Having an important network around you at demanding times is the biggest Christmas present of all. My wellbeing is enriched and enhanced dramatically because of the life I lead today!
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    Christmas Thoughts - Emily Doe!

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    Christmas 2018

    "A moment to think about my up and coming first Christmas as a mum. Having spent most Christmases of my adult life partying hard and working hard, Christmas 2018 bestows a somewhat thankful and content bliss upon myself. The once repeated excitement of finishing a hard shift and holding a cold beverage in my hand has been replaced by the excitement of watching my son's blue eyes light up by the twinkle of the Christmas tree lights and the silence of a thousand words of watching my family watch Christmas movies while cuddled up near a warm fire.

    I remind myself during these blissful moments how lucky I am, as I know many individuals in my life who live with their own pains of loss, loneliness, working hard and crippling want for love. It's these thoughts that are the very real reminder that Christmas is about love, giving time, reflection and being thankful for the life you have. Christmas isn't about fancy presents and unnecessary expenses, its about staying safe and finding happiness in the little things that life offers you.

    Merry Christmas to all my wonderful family and friends x stay safe and be happy x"


    Emily Doe

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    Christmas Thoughts - Justin Phillips!

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    "Late on Christmas Eve 1914 a troop of the British Expeditionary Force ventured out of the trenches.

    As they crept through the forbidding darkness of no man’s land, filled with bravery and terror beyond our modern day comprehension, they would take part in an event that would shine a beacon of light and hope over the cataclysm of the Great War.

    Instead of shells and bullets they were greeted by carols and gifts. The ‘Tommies’ and the ‘Huns’ sat as brothers sharing cigarettes, tales of home and pictures of their loved ones.

    The football match that ensued not only represented an oasis of optimism against a barren backdrop of horror, but also a guiding star for the human race.

    Man’s inhumanity to man, can, has and should be vanquished. In the tumultuous annals of our history, on 24th December 1914, we had a glimpse of a utopia that can exist if we will it. That, for me, is the true meaning of Christmas."


    Justin Phillips

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    Reliance On Medication!

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    It's not until you forget to take your medication, that you realise just how much you rely on it. Yesterday, I forgot to take my blood pressure tablet and suffered as a result. Leaving the house at 9am, I wasn't returning to 11.30pm that night, so there was no chance of popping that pill even if I wanted too.

    Generally I am pretty good at taking my meds first thing in the morning. I leave the packets by the side of my bed each night and am fastidious about popping the three capsules I take, at exactly the same time each day. My obsessive behaviour is based on experience. In the past I was prescribed various different pills because of depression and anxiety. I would take one to get up, one to get me through the day and a sleeping pill at night. It did seem for many years that my life was controlled artificially, which did nothing to improve my general sense of wellbeing. I often felt worse than I did before I was medicated; it wasn't something I was prepared to put up with and my outlook started to change dramatically. Throwing my medication in the bin and  going cold turkey was just the start of the new life I enjoy today!

    I obviously wouldn't advise anyone stop taking their meds in one go like me, I am just lucky it worked out. I went through hell for quite a few weeks as my body readjusted to life without the crutch I had made for myself. I felt physically unwell, just like I did yesterday when I forgot to take my pill and instantly regretted my decision. Of course nothing lasts forever and it wasn't long before I felt fighting fit again; in fact I remember the day I finally adjusted to life without the medication.

    I was walking down Southampton High Street, as I had done many times before, when suddenly all the 'sick' feelings just disappeared, it honestly felt like I was walking out of a physical haze of muddle and confusion. I remember stepping outside of this bubble and being able to breathe again; I felt energised and full of life.  I actually witnessed a foggy cloud disappearing behind me, leaving me free of restraint and fear. The change in myself was immediate, like I had been given a second chance; luckily it has lasted and I feel better today than I ever have.

    As I have got older I have acquired different age related ailments along the way, many of which were masked by the antidepressants I used to take. Giving up these brought other issues to the surface. Without the antidepressants I could finally take charge of my life and assess when things were not right, seeking medical help when necessary. Antidepressants are great at making you forget but they do nothing to help you see the reality around you or the future at your feet!

    Today I just take medication for elevated blood pressure and statins for high cholesterol, prescribed by a private clinic when I lived in Spain. My time living abroad was invaluable, it taught me much about myself, my shortcomings and limitations. It also encouraged me to reassess the  life I once led, kick starting my health concerns and prompting me to seek advice. I was going through a particularly bad time at work, with my health suffering almost on a daily basis and eventually went to get a complete MOT, just to see if there was anything wrong. The Doctor told me it was probably best that I leave the position I was in and walk away from the situation. My blood pressure was dangerously high and I began the process of leaving Gran Alacant for my own good; so far it has worked.

    Today I am happier than I ever have been; my blood pressure and cholesterol are under control and I am living a much more productive life. The challenges I face now are different to those I encountered previously, but at least I am facing them head on without a bottle of pills. The World around us demands we connect to it purposefully, without clouded judgement and experience everything it has to offer. Free from a reliance on artificial stimulants, we need to cope with what it throws our way. Medication is there to get us through difficult times and should only be used as a last resort. I am stronger today because I had the strength to ditch the pills, I am moving forwards with positivity because I am free of the constraints that held me back, I am whole again because I took back control of my own destiny. Finally I am the person I wanted to be!
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    Christmas Thoughts - Michele Stokes!

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    "I really believe everyone should think hard before going out and buying all these expensive presents that's on the lists, that are presented to them and getting themselves into debt for . Surely the most wanted gift is to be surrounded by family; this is a gift not automatically given to everyone. If you are lucky to have your family be with them, appreciate them, because one day they may not be there. Happy Christmas everyone xx"


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    Christmas Thoughts - Michelle Rebello-Tindall!

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    "Christmas is a time of wanting to be home on dark cold nights and loving the warm glow of coloured lights. I love the films, family, the thrill of a snow forecast, Nat King Cole, a real tree and just being grateful for all that I have.

    Our house is chaotically and unashamedly autistic and we don't march to the same beat as everyone else. We beg the kids every year to give us their Christmas wishes because they don't want material things. We refuse to have turkey and we actively avoid shopping. We'll also be avoiding social expectations... And balloons. Christmas day itself is at the mercy of army shifts.

    The kids don't want pantos or parties and have never wanted to go see Father Christmas (why would you want to queue with crying babies for an hour to go sit in a dark hut with a stranger in disguise who interrogates you?). Our kids just want to hide from the world under blankets and recharge their batteries before the next term and that's OK!

    So if you take a peek through our door we'll be happily playing Exploding Kittens and making sure the potatoes don't touch the gravy."


    Michelle Rebello-Tindall

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