Popped along to the Quesada Restaurant with Dawn and Katie yesterday afternoon. To be honest we were supposed to go shopping at Euroski, but ended up drinking red wine at this lovely venue on the coast, at Santa Pola. I nice bottle of Rioja, chatting with the 'No Wives Club!'
We ended up talking about families and family trees, which is one subject I am passionate about, having researched my own tree, back to the 1500's.
I is also difficult, living abroad, without one's family and was nice to hear about Dawn and Katie's similar feelings and experiences.
After dropping Katie off at home, I went back with Dawn for a glass or two more, of wine; where we chatted more. Dawn was interested in what had happened between myself and Oxfam; what exactly had brought us to Spain? She has been reading my blog and was interested in my 'Charlatan or Confidant' entries and my conversations with Penny, the secret Director, Psychic and Manager. Well, these were her words not mine. To this day, I still have no idea who the woman was and probably never will.
Explaining to another person, just what happened, during that period of my life is difficult. People normally sit there, blank expressionless, or looking a little confused. Dawn was a bit different to most. She has studied psychology herself, rather like my old friend in the UK, Ramona, so was well aware of what I was talking about. She was able to offer advice and empathise, is a way that others can't.
My story is a little bit different from most of those who live here and is not something I talk about to everyone I meet. I am a writer and will always detail those events in the way I need too. It helps me come to terms with what exactly happened. Dawn was more interested than most. That is great for me, because talking about that time is a great healer, just as writing about it is, also!
I do sometimes feel that people disbelieve what you are telling them. That is most certainly true with individuals, who don't really know me. All I can say is, my partner and husband went through it with me and we were both abused in a way that is difficult to comprehend. In time, we hope to be able to return to Britain, briefly, to give evidence against these people. That is an ongoing saga and one that will end one day, Until then, it is great to have people, like Dawn, Katie and many others to talk to, especially when feeling lost or down; which does happen often, although less and less as time goes on!
After another bottle of wine at Zest, watching British quiz shows, we were done!
Thanks Dawn and Katies for another 'No Wives Club' afternoon!