Veracity & Inaccuracy!

I was reading an article on the former F.B.I. Director, James Comey yesterday, accusing the President of the United States, of lying about him. It is a sad fact of life, that Donald Trump is a liar, speaks off the cuff and bases truth on speculation and conjecture. I have seen and heard the lies, all over the internet, it is in plain site, for all of us the analyse. It just so happens, I've had more time on my hands, than others to do just that, so recognise just what is going on here. People like the President, use their power and influence, to ride rough shod, over others, to get where they want to be. He is a known sociopath, treats others with disdain and disrespect and in my humble opinion, isn't fit to be President. Strong words to describe a man, whose own downfull will be brought about by his inability to distinguish between veracity and inaccuracy. Significantly, he truly believes what he says is correct, refusing to acknowledge he is wrong. This is a dangerous flaw in his character, one all of us should be concerned about. This is not unique to the President, there are many other people, from all walks of life, who share this shortcoming; all of us need to be aware of them!

Why the hell do people have to lie?  After my experience with a sociopath, I made a promise to myself, that I would never again believe what other people tell me. Yes, when you are confronted by sociopathy, it really does change your whole outlook on life. One has to remember, I spent the year, before arriving in Spain, dealing with lies and constant unabated untruths, so I am well versed in the words of a story teller.

Moving to Spain was a new start for me, but I understood I could come up against the same problems, I left behind in the UK. Sociopathy is not unique to Britain; it is a personality defect that exists everywhere, lying being just a small part of it. The difficulties I went through, have helped me restart my life in a foreign country. I am totally aware of unwanted signs, singling out people who are not worthy of my time. I can detect falsehoods a mile off and will no longer hang around listening to Bull Sh*t.

Most people deceive for stupid reasons; to make themselves look better in a group of people; to avoid consequences, for something minor; or refusing to acknowledge an issue, they would rather not deal with. There are endless reasons, why people are economical with the truth; I have seen them all and even told lies myself, in the past, as we all do from time to time.

The biggest regret for me today, is not being able to take people at face value; trusting what they say; believing their platitudes. Due to my experiences, I start judging, immediately I meet someone new. This is something I have to do. for my own protection; to prevent a recurrence of what transpired in the past. There is a big difference today however, I know what I am looking for and am able to walk away.

During my life time, in the main, I have crossed paths with decent people. Like everyone, I have come across some less savoury characters, distancing myself from them. In some cases it has been necessary to cut people off completely, in order to move forward with ones life successfully. Doing this is painful, old memories resurface and as a person, I become far more inward looking, taking  solace in my own company, where I don't have to listen to others dishonesty.

When faced with a story teller, look out for the signs of fabrication, misrepresentation, distortion and evasion. Body language is key, not being able to look you in the eye, whilst lying to you; fidgeting and squirming in the face of confrontation and contradiction  in the stories they peddle. All of these traits, I look for, on a regular basis; it is something I do as a matter of course these days; it does seem to work.

I have been about for 46 years and am constantly readjusting my outlook on life, surrounding myself with those, I believe are honest and true. There are plenty of people like that; one doesn't have to settle for second best. If you are suspicious of anyone, you believe to be toxic, makes you feel down and depressed, whose lies are distinct and obvious, then you have a duty to remove them from your life. Hard choices and anguish now, will be worth it, in the future. Say goodbye to Liars, others will see them for who they are eventually, hold your head high, keep your dignity, remain composed and always remember you did the right thing!