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Thank you to everybody who sent myself and Darrell good wishes for our anniversary yesterday. It was just a normal evening for us; me having to working at LoungeD in the evening; oh how my life has changed. It means a lot that so many people took the time to message us both. The 22nd of September 1995 was as memorable as our Wedding in 2015. Our life has not been a bed of roses, perfect or conformist; it has been controversial, difficult, unconventional and above all eventful; today, living in Spain is no different.
My views on gay marriage have changed over the years; I actually used to be against the whole idea. Why did we have to get Married, in the same way as straight people, just to prove our love for one another? In my opinion Marriage was always a religious ceremony and since I don't have a religious bone in my body, why would I choose such a performance, a phony act of committal in front of family and friends? So many people I have known, have married in lavish ceremonies, costing thousands of pounds, only to be divorced soon after; not a great advert for this age old institution.
With very few good examples of Marriage to speak of, arranging my own Wedding wasn't really top of my list of priorities, but after a particularly uplifting New Years Eve, I made the decision to ask Darrel to marry me; it was a way of bonding our relationship together and sticking two fingers up to the detractors. Little did I know, just how important that piece of paper, marking our union would be. In a little over two months, my life had taken a traumatic turn and our decision to get hitched was validated; it was indeed the right thing to do. For once I had not made the wrong choice in life. That certificate would be the only thing allowing us to stay together in Spain. Darrell's Australian citizenship would normally bar him from living and working in Spain for an indefinite period, his Marriage to me, an EU citizen allows him to stay, unhindered.
Our time together over twenty two years has been enhanced by a tiny piece of paper. Apart from the legalities behind Marriage, making our life, living in Europe a little easier than it otherwise would have been, it has also been a psychological eye opener. Marriage really does feel different, it introduces a different level of commitment; I am reminded of my Wedding vows everyday. Our bond together as a couple has grown stronger and stronger; this anti gay Marriage detractor has finally embraced the traditional way of doing things and I like it!
My views on gay marriage have changed over the years; I actually used to be against the whole idea. Why did we have to get Married, in the same way as straight people, just to prove our love for one another? In my opinion Marriage was always a religious ceremony and since I don't have a religious bone in my body, why would I choose such a performance, a phony act of committal in front of family and friends? So many people I have known, have married in lavish ceremonies, costing thousands of pounds, only to be divorced soon after; not a great advert for this age old institution.
With very few good examples of Marriage to speak of, arranging my own Wedding wasn't really top of my list of priorities, but after a particularly uplifting New Years Eve, I made the decision to ask Darrel to marry me; it was a way of bonding our relationship together and sticking two fingers up to the detractors. Little did I know, just how important that piece of paper, marking our union would be. In a little over two months, my life had taken a traumatic turn and our decision to get hitched was validated; it was indeed the right thing to do. For once I had not made the wrong choice in life. That certificate would be the only thing allowing us to stay together in Spain. Darrell's Australian citizenship would normally bar him from living and working in Spain for an indefinite period, his Marriage to me, an EU citizen allows him to stay, unhindered.
Our time together over twenty two years has been enhanced by a tiny piece of paper. Apart from the legalities behind Marriage, making our life, living in Europe a little easier than it otherwise would have been, it has also been a psychological eye opener. Marriage really does feel different, it introduces a different level of commitment; I am reminded of my Wedding vows everyday. Our bond together as a couple has grown stronger and stronger; this anti gay Marriage detractor has finally embraced the traditional way of doing things and I like it!
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