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Only going to be a short blog today, as I have been rushed off my feet with Doctors and Wedding stuff. I wanted to talk about loosing one's temper. Darrell and I had a minor tiff today, and I wanted to mention it. This is an honest blog after all!
I am certainly a person who likes to argue. My father was a local Politician, and he always taught me to strongly argue my point. Like him I feel I am always right and in all honesty I can always shout louder than someone else. Darrell and I do not argue any more than anyone else really. Actually after observing other relationships, I would say we probably argue less. Darrell doesn't like to argue, in fact he will walk away, agree, when I know he doesn't, or lock himself in a room. All of these things get me angry. As a person who was bought up to speak for myself and my friends, I find it odd that others will not speak up for themselves equally.
The trouble with me, is I will battle, fight, scream and shout even if I am wrong. My interest in Politics has taught me a great deal, especially how to dig myself out of a hole, usually of my own making. Yes I am good with words, although as I get older, I am more forgetful and in some cases end up digging myself into even bigger holes. If you believe passionately in something, even if you are wrong, stand up for yourselves. Make your voice heard and never admit defeat. Weakness has never been an option for me, which is why this Bipolar Relapse, is such a pain. I have shown weakness, which is unlike me, but even the best of us have to know when to take a break!
Growing up Gay has really always been at the back of my mind! As a gay man you always have to watch your back. There will always be someone out to get you, it is a fact of gay life. As I have got older, it seems there are more people than ever, trying to get in the way of my relationship as well as others, who are really just out for a fight. Yes it pisses me off. Darrell has said to me, I bite too easily, and if I only learnt to control my temper, things would be better.
Is it really right to say and do nothing? Is it right to allow others to believe they are superior? Is it right to let others believe they have won an argument? Is it right to not react?
I don't believe so. I believe we are pre-programmed to deal with what is right or wrong, and to let people get away with lies and arguments shows weakness. They will surely take advantage of that situation in the future. Others, like my partner, just want a quiet life and couldn't care less about the rights and wrongs of a situation. In reality, the way one reacts to others is about the way one has been taught. Personally I have high morals and take a huge amount of pride in the things I say and strongly believe in helping myself and others!
In my view, never walk away from an argument, never admit you are wrong, never show weakness, when a situation requires strength and above all never carry an argument on. It should be worked out and put to bed, before you go to bed. Walking away without closure, only seeks to carry on something that has angered you in the first place, that's never good. You will just dwell on it! Sort it immediately, successfully and allow both parties, at least a sense of success and a belief that maybe they were right. This prevents problems and resentment in the long term!
Happy Screaming Y'all!
I am certainly a person who likes to argue. My father was a local Politician, and he always taught me to strongly argue my point. Like him I feel I am always right and in all honesty I can always shout louder than someone else. Darrell and I do not argue any more than anyone else really. Actually after observing other relationships, I would say we probably argue less. Darrell doesn't like to argue, in fact he will walk away, agree, when I know he doesn't, or lock himself in a room. All of these things get me angry. As a person who was bought up to speak for myself and my friends, I find it odd that others will not speak up for themselves equally.
The trouble with me, is I will battle, fight, scream and shout even if I am wrong. My interest in Politics has taught me a great deal, especially how to dig myself out of a hole, usually of my own making. Yes I am good with words, although as I get older, I am more forgetful and in some cases end up digging myself into even bigger holes. If you believe passionately in something, even if you are wrong, stand up for yourselves. Make your voice heard and never admit defeat. Weakness has never been an option for me, which is why this Bipolar Relapse, is such a pain. I have shown weakness, which is unlike me, but even the best of us have to know when to take a break!
Growing up Gay has really always been at the back of my mind! As a gay man you always have to watch your back. There will always be someone out to get you, it is a fact of gay life. As I have got older, it seems there are more people than ever, trying to get in the way of my relationship as well as others, who are really just out for a fight. Yes it pisses me off. Darrell has said to me, I bite too easily, and if I only learnt to control my temper, things would be better.
Is it really right to say and do nothing? Is it right to allow others to believe they are superior? Is it right to let others believe they have won an argument? Is it right to not react?
I don't believe so. I believe we are pre-programmed to deal with what is right or wrong, and to let people get away with lies and arguments shows weakness. They will surely take advantage of that situation in the future. Others, like my partner, just want a quiet life and couldn't care less about the rights and wrongs of a situation. In reality, the way one reacts to others is about the way one has been taught. Personally I have high morals and take a huge amount of pride in the things I say and strongly believe in helping myself and others!
In my view, never walk away from an argument, never admit you are wrong, never show weakness, when a situation requires strength and above all never carry an argument on. It should be worked out and put to bed, before you go to bed. Walking away without closure, only seeks to carry on something that has angered you in the first place, that's never good. You will just dwell on it! Sort it immediately, successfully and allow both parties, at least a sense of success and a belief that maybe they were right. This prevents problems and resentment in the long term!
Happy Screaming Y'all!
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