It´s Time!

We have heard from a lot of people since leaving The UK.  Close friends have kept in touch regularly through social media, others, like my volunteers from my old job in Southampton, have written emails and letters and others have rang, like clockwork.  We have also been surprised at the number of people, who we had lost touch with, over the years, living in Southampton, who have contacted us, sent us goodwill messages and rekindled old friendships.

It has been wonderful to hear from people, we had either fallen out with or moved away from.  These friends are very important to us.  They have reinforced our views, about the reasons we left Britain in the first place.  You see, many of those, who we now have the bonus of talking to again, have specifically told us, that due to the dubious nature, of those we used to mix with, they felt unable to continue with friendships.

Now under normal circumstances, I would actually be bloody angry with these revelations.  I mean who are other people, to determine, who we can and can not see as friends?  These are not normal times.  We left Southampton, because of some of the worst people you could ever meet.  These were never personal slights against myself and Darrell, but rather a need to remove themselves from associations with people, who quite frankly deserve nothing but our contempt.

When Jamie decided to come along with us.  He was at a low ebb.  Rather than most of his so called friends encouraging him to move to Spain, start a new life and regain his dignity, there were those, who just wanted to destroy him further, start rumours and mischief and quite frankly, act like the immature children they always were. Very few people, ever tried to help Jamie, just as very few tried to help and encourage us, with our move to Spain.  Even those closest to myself and Darrell, continued to stick the knife in.  Cornering one or the other of us, singly, when they were able, to try and throw a spanner in the works.  These were close and trusted friends, people we had supported over others, offered a roof over their heads and been there for at very traumatic times.  To realise that these individuals were nothing more than opportunists and manipulators was a hard lesson to learn!

Sadly what happened to us, continues to happen to others.  Natalee has decided to move out to Spain, to start a new life with us.  This was her decision, nothing we had influenced, but a choice she had made herself, for her own personal reasons. We are delighted she is coming here, and after everything Natalee has done for us, she well knows, our home, is always hers, for as long as she wants.  Friends do not judge others, friends accept their friends decisions, friends support one another.  That´s what we do right?

Yes of course that is what we do for those close to us.  Their happiness should be our only priority, but like us, Natalee has had her fair share of nastiness.  Deleted from facebook, removed from friends lists, ignored and treated with disrespect, and for what? 

There is absolutely no reason or justification for what is happening to Nat, what happened to Darrell and I or indeed happened to Jamie.  These are selfish motives, from angry people, with jealous minds and a desire to see others fail in life.  Just because they are not here, they hate the fact that someone else, may actually move out  to Spain and might, just might succeed, just as they could have done. The `If I can´t have it, nor should you´scenario.  This just shows them for the people they are, in fact the terrible human beings they always were really, and I was just taken in, to believe them and their motives.

I would like to thank all those people for offering their support.  From Justin Phillips, who had no reason to say any kind words and who´s encouragement is particulary invaluable, to Gavin Manning, who had not spoken to us in a few years and to Nathan Stephens, who thoughts have been very welcome.  These are people, who literally have no reason to say anything, but they have done and have pushed us ever forwards.

To those, who have been so disrespectful towards us and our endeavours.  Just think for a minute, what pain and hell we went through for over a year.  In fact on the anniversary of my relapse, the reverberations of that time are still being felt. You just remember what you claimed to be and offer and then justify your appalling bahaviour, not only to myself and Darrell, Jamie and Natalee, but also to every single person, who we supported over you.  How wrong we were, once again? How wrong Jamie was? How wrong was Natalee? how wrong were we all? Especially how wrong was I, to ever think you were anything but genuine?  Finally, it´s time to say goodbye, finally it´s time to lay you all to rest!

​Peace and Love always!

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