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4 December 2015
I've promised myself, I would stay up until 2am, to finish what I am doing. Haven't got a lot of time left to get everything cleared out now, so every minute counts. Trying to decide what is worth keeping, is hard though, really hard, as everything, holds so many memories for us!
Trying to work out, what memory, is worth more than another memory is really quite hard, so I have decided, simply to base it on time. The older the item is, memory wise, the more likely I am going to keep it. It is working so far!
A lot of the bulk has already gone to the car boot sale. I used to have so many dust collectors, that I had no choice. Selling items for a pound each though, is hard, which is why Jay Greaves and Jason have carried out the task of selling. I would just have second thoughts, and bring everything home with me again. Really I would!
It is a lot easier, now we have found a good auction house. Believe me, they are hard to find, few and far between, but these seem OK, thus far. More boxing up of stuff tomorrow, although this time, the items I am going to keep, so a much happier task all round!
Peace and love always!
Reflections - 5 February 2018
I am reminded of how difficult my life had become, just over two years ago. One has to remember the preparations we were making for our emigration to Spain was born out of adverse times, which made the disposing of possessions, even more difficult. I was feeling very resentful at the whole process and wanted to just get it over and done with.
They do say moving is the most stressful time of your life; well I have to concur with that, in fact for obvious reasons, this was the most difficult move of our relationship. We made our decision to relocate many months before, so the reality is, we had a prolonged period of packing, organising and clearing out. These endless months, were extremely stressful, putting strain on our relationship and my health, which was already in a bad state.
I am glad this chapter in my life is now over; it remains a painful memory, but a distant one, the more time passes. Of course we have moved again since we left for Spain, under much happier circumstances. This time we were packed and gone within a few days. I have much less stuff now, than I ever have and aim to further trim down, the baggage I have. As I get older, it is more important to scale down the items I have around me; they have become less and less important. I have come to the conclusion that life is much simpler, without 'things.' Of course I will never be a minimalist, but I am happy to admit, I am enjoying life far more, now I have been liberated from the shackles that kept me grounded in the past.
3 December 2015
Reflections - 2 February 2017
The one aspect of life I miss living in Spain, is spending time with friends. We had a lot of good friendships back home, built up over many years and although I do stay in contact, messaging as often as I can, it really isn't the same, as popping out for a bottle of wine and putting the World to rights. It's strange this entry popped up today; I have just been messaging a mate, from Southampton, Richard, who I haven't seen in over four years; it was good to talk to him. At my time of life, memories are important.
Of course I still have friendships here in Spain, but they are not the close ones, I was used to, living in the UK. I avoid getting too attached to people these days, because of past experiences anyway. Spain is a very social place, with most people out and about having a drink or two in the many bars here, but it still isn't the same as home. I was far more social a few years ago, enjoying the company of others; today it is very different; or maybe I am!
My more cautious approach to life has its benefits, but it also feels very lonely. In Britain, people did seem far more open, friendly and of course less judgemental. I am not saying for one minute, that everyone here is at adds with these attributes, but rather, this is my perception of those around me. Don't forget we have only lived in Spain for a very short while, we have no idea how that will change in the future. I do miss the social interaction I enjoyed, but I am also mindful of the difficulties I experienced, because of some of those we were close to in the past.
Today, I socialise in a very different way. I don't see people that often, but communicate everyday via the internet; without which, life would be very difficult. The internet feeds my need for friendship, past and present. I look forward to returning to the UK soon for a short visit, where at least I will have an opportunity to catch up with those I left behind and maybe have a bottle of Rioja or two. Until then myself and Darrell just keep out heads down and get on with our lives, away from the hustle and bustle of city life; a welcome break after years of turmoil!
46 year old Expat, writer and columnist, living and working in Gran Alacant on the Costa Blanca.